What would *YOU* do - outed to employer and fired

I can understand how kittyloveratx may not feel able to out it, but in the absence of its one name, I would not go near any of his 15* reviewees.

(*) just my quick count of unique names in his review headlines.

So a question that has my mind wondering....Who is to say he is NOT the actual angry bitter EX that is just upset that said provider will NOT take him back? So in RETURN he is posting THIS to try and tarnish her good rep and OUT her? Anyone consider that? Just asking....as I don't think anyone has asked that. We have seen it happen before on here.

well 6 out of his 16 reviews are about the same gal.. This is a very shitty thing to hear.. I wish you the best of luck

So a question that has my mind wondering....Who is to say he is NOT the actual angry bitter EX that is just upset that said provider will NOT take him back? So in RETURN he is posting THIS to try and tarnish her good rep and OUT her? Anyone consider that? Just asking....as I don't think anyone has asked that. We have seen it happen before on here. Originally Posted by Sexy Roxanne

It certainly would explain a great deal.

well 6 out of his 16 reviews are about the same gal.. This is a very shitty thing to hear.. I wish you the best of luck Originally Posted by AustinsGurlz

So really the probability is higher for those that he "stopped" seeing or has no review for AFTER December of 2010 since this is supposedly the break up time according to his original post, am I correct?

So really the probability is higher for those that he "stopped" seeing or has no review for AFTER December of 2010 since this is supposedly the break up time according to his original post, am I correct? Originally Posted by kaitanic

Be very careful and do not point a finger! You are not a PI! A lot of good provides on his review list. You do not want to go down that road!!! It's up to him to out said Provider! Just saying THINK of what you are doing!
Anyway I smell a rat! Not everything adds up!

You only have to three things to do.
1. Get her back and move on with your life.
2. Move on with your life.
3. Wine like a bitch until, you finally realize that all you can do is move on with your life. Originally Posted by Artie Lange

You really should have picked to be a mod in Houston. Seriously.

kitty, what a shitty situation. now i see why you become more edgy and bitter in your posts recently. I would too.

i don't know the whole story, but i wish you the best and I hope i can learn from this. I don't know what went on you between you and this provider but she clearly crossed the fucking line. I respect privacy wayyyyy too much to ever see things from her point of view.

if you won't out her then i'll make sure not to ever see any of the chicks you reviewed (well except Maxeen, she's great, and maybe a couple others....). Seriously though you should out her.

All I know is that some bad choices were made. I don't mean to seem insensitive Kittylover, but I'm having a difficult time, digesting your story without shaking my head. I'm sorry, but you're not the only one that has lived through some devious plot.

I'm one of several providers who has been *outed* by hobbyists who have taken upon themselves to *tell all* to their S/Os...several times now. I've dodged lots of bullets by troublemakers...and these are factual stories that were discussed right here and on aspd long ago. Not some he said/she said drama that cannot be verified.

I can't speak for the other providers...but, my thought is this...I knew the risks and choice I made for myself going in...what those hobbyists did was inappropriate and breached our security. What recourse did we have? Well, plenty to tell you the truth...as I'm sure many of us could have done tons of damage...but, at the end of the day...we took care of our business, made necessary adjustments, and went on with our lives.

I'm one of several providers who has been *outed* by hobbyists who have taken upon themselves to *tell all* to their S/Os...several times now. Originally Posted by Likinikki

I've never outed you, disrespected you or told my wife how much I loved you.

That said, can I lick your butt?

I can understand how kittyloveratx may not feel able to out it, but in the absence of its one name, I would not go near any of his 15* reviewees.

(*) just my quick count of unique names in his review headlines. Originally Posted by NorthWood

well 6 out of his 16 reviews are about the same gal.. This is a very shitty thing to hear.. I wish you the best of luck Originally Posted by AustinsGurlz

Be very careful and do not point a finger! You are not a PI! A lot of good provides on his review list. You do not want to go down that road!!! It's up to him to out said Provider! Just saying THINK of what you are doing!
Anyway I smell a rat! Not everything adds up! Originally Posted by levibob56

Levibob, it is not my intention to point fingers. It seems you are quite quick to judge. Let me explain my statement and lighten the situation. I was basing my thoughts off of the quotes above. I was simply stating that if you were to base your thoughts and deductions by not going near any of the providers the op has reviewed, it is really not fair to exclude all those providers simply because it is clear that any reviews on providers after the so break up date is not the provider in question. To me, it would make no sense to have a session with the provider in question after this unfortunate incidence. Therefore, in my opinion, it is fair to say that providers reviewed after the break up date is not in question period; leaving the providers reviewed before with higher probability if you were to base deductions solely on reviews. Again, I am not trying to point fingers, for all I know, the op may have NEVER "reviewed" the provider in question.

well 6 out of his 16 reviews are about the same gal.. This is a very shitty thing to hear.. I wish you the best of luck Originally Posted by AustinsGurlz

Excuse me!? Let me start by addressing AustinGurlz first. You are way out of line to question my reputation based on how many times the OP has reviewed me! He has been one of my regulars for a long time. For you to underhandedly accuse me of doing something so malicious is just stupid. I will not stand for you, or anyone else, to question my reputation! I do hope you heard me loud and clear, darling. Next time you want to accuse me of something, you need to put your big girl panties on and do it directly to me. Not on some hooker board.

I do not date clients. I don't believe it. Never have, never will. It's only a recipe for disaster.

With that, I have been quiet on this topic for a couple of reasons. One, I don't do drama. And I'm not a big poster, anyways. I have better things to do with my time. Also, the OP has been using me as a "sounding board" thru all of this mess. I haven't posted out of fear of mislaying his trust, and accidentally revealing details he doesn't want out there. And trust me, there are huge details he has not disclosed here.

My opinion on this? When he initially told me about this, I was livid, for several reasons...With the loss of his job, and pending move, I'll be losing a regular. As any provider will tell you, the lose of a good regular sucks!

The fact that a provider would take personal info she gained by dating him,
and doing something so malicious, because of a relationship that went south....well, I think it's just plain disgraceful! Was she the one who did it, I don't know. I only have one side of the story. As I said, he has bounced a lot of things off me lately, trying to piece this shit together. I don't think he is way off base, to be honest.

For those who are questioning how he knows "who" did it? Think about this...most people don't go thru life with others pissed off with them. Generally, you'll upset someone, deal with it, and move on. Months or years will pass before you tick the next person off. Most people don't have a laundry list of people in their life that want to screw them over. And since this is hobby related, I'm sure the OP knows who he has disclosed his personal info to. He has a long history in the hobby. I don't think he's had to hand over work info to someone in quite awhile, if at all.

What really makes me angry about this.....is the damage this will have on providers like me, who use work info to screen newbies! It is now out here, in black and white, what a provider will do with that info. From a providers stand point, what has happened is beyond unethical and unprofessional!

Again, I don't know if the OP has the right person involved. I, for sure, am not the one responsible. I don't really have an opinion on outing her or not. That is entirely up to him.

Alisha ...xoxo

couple of final points as this is getting way off topic...

Not bitter overall, a little disappointed and just unemployed for the moment, starting to gather boxes and packing for the move for the new job opportunity, and simple asked what you (the board community) would do.

I've said it before, heavy decision with some serious ramifications not to be made rashly. Some very good answers and some just typical pile on or make some leap of deduction based on posts, reviews, etc. The good answers have me thinking about potential courses of action and consequences, the silly ones I've just ignored.

And no, you can't figure it out by my reviews, so please stop speculating.

Thanks for all the input, side discussions, etc.. its been rather enlightening.

First and Fore most... keep business about business and personal about personal..This is the Industry you chose to get involved in..weather your a hobbyist or a provider.. With that begin said there are many pros and cons to this Industry ..Its the Nature of the Beast!!!!

With all that said not even one of the several holes in this story has been filled with a clear explanation by the OP himself while a few posters have guessed at possible answers that don't quite add up. Nor has the OP provided one single legitimate reason for not divulging the identity of the "Culprit" once again causing waves by leaving the board members to point fingers at one another.
Both levibob and myself seem to believe as he so aptly put it "Anyway I smell a rat! Not everything adds up!"

If the situation is so complex that the full story cannot be revealed then why waste everyone's time with a partial, hole ridden yet explosive piece of the puzzle. If it is not a revenge or manipulative ploy on the OP's part as Roxi mentioned (She does not make idle gossip) then what is the friggin point of this thread?

Is it to get mongers pissed and paranoid with all of the board providers on and off his list of reviews and to make providers defensive? That is the ONLY thing the OP has succeeded in doing.
This entire thread is bullshit IMO.