Consideration for the betrayed wife

a lot of marriages the sex is dead. someone can bring up the stats of sexless marriages and its a big number. but even if the wife is doing her job at home in her eyes it doesn't mean she is.. guys still want to excitement of being with someone new and the fantasy of doing things that the wife doesn't do. example many American wives don't give head, but she will ride you like a stallion.. so the man will stray outside the marriage to fill that void he is missing. its as simple as that and not complicated.

I wish the OP well, just remember that just cause you think you were satisfying your hubby doesn't mean he was satisfied.. and even if you were there is a rush of meeting someone new and screwing her brains out then leaving.. its something males have evolved to do. hitting the same pussy gets boring after a while.. and yes the porn addiction your hubby had can contribute.. with porn you can bring up any genre you want or fantasy.. and then with hobbying you can take those fantasies into real life and not worry about the wife saying "I can't tonight honey, I have a headache"

Actually, I became a provider because I already had this point of view...
I think if more people embraced it, we would have more marriages lasting, and less miserable people in the world. I would also lose business... lol But I think society still has a long way to go with being more open. It probably won't ever happen, which in my opinion, is a tragedy. Originally Posted by Mary Ann

Mary Ann,

I think that I've found a kindred spirit! Such great thoughts.

Thanks,
Elisabeth

Actually, I became a provider because I already had this point of view...
I think if more people embraced it, we would have more marriages lasting, and less miserable people in the world. I would also lose business... lol But I think society still has a long way to go with being more open. It probably won't ever happen, which in my opinion, is a tragedy. Originally Posted by Mary Ann

I stand corrected. You are not the norm in the real world. Now, about those taint photos ...

a lot of marriages the sex is dead. someone can bring up the stats of sexless marriages and its a big number. but even if the wife is doing her job at home in her eyes it doesn't mean she is.. guys still want to excitement of being with someone new and the fantasy of doing things that the wife doesn't do. example many American wives don't give head, but she will ride you like a stallion.. so the man will stray outside the marriage to fill that void he is missing. its as simple as that and not complicated.

I wish the OP well, just remember that just cause you think you were satisfying your hubby doesn't mean he was satisfied.. and even if you were there is a rush of meeting someone new and screwing her brains out then leaving.. its something males have evolved to do. hitting the same pussy gets boring after a while.. and yes the porn addiction your hubby had can contribute.. with porn you can bring up any genre you want or fantasy.. and then with hobbying you can take those fantasies into real life and not worry about the wife saying "I can't tonight honey, I have a headache" Originally Posted by joesmo888

If males have evolved to cheat (which is a fucking idiotic statement just meant to justify some married guy's weakness)...then no male should ever get married. So why do these dumbass pussies do it?

It's because we get told almost from birth that it's the greatest thing since sliced bread. Never underestimate the power of indoctrination.

Only weak individuals accept teaching without self evaluation...from anyone...and it appears these hypocritical pussies are weak minded individuals as well...

Pity...

Or some of them did conduct a serious self evaluation and did not come up with the same dogmatic conclusion as you did.

So their "serious self evaluation", which led to the incontrovertible fact that cheating on their wife, if she found out about it, would cause her immense emotional pain, so they're going to KEEP DOING IT and just not tell her...and they were okay with that?

So now, not only are they scared, weak minded, hypocritical pussies...they're also emotionally bankrupt liars who want to stay in a type of relationship that requires the exact opposite?

Wow...good argument...

As I said, not everyone is in the same situation that you are in, not everyone views things as you do. We are not moving the discussion forward--we went through this all not too long ago and you demonstrated your complete inflexibility then.

I would not have even posted this go-round if you had not widened your position to include being a good parent--something you had not brought up last time.

I am glad to know that in your universe one flaw (on YOUR list of flaws) makes someone "scared, weak minded, hypocritical pussies...they're also emotionally bankrupt". I wonder how you would describe them if they did something truly egregious like be a drug lord, pimp, assassin, etc.

You are not going to change your views, and I am not going to change my view that you are seriously simplifying a very complex situation. I am glad for you that your world is simpler than the reality many people face daily.

Is this a trick question? (no pun intended)

I am glad for you that your world is simpler than the reality many people face daily. Originally Posted by Old-T

The reality is simple...they choose to erroneously make it complicated in an attempt to justify their own selfish, weak, and hypocritical position...

In the end...it's all them...and their massive faults they are trying to justify, that makes them what I've described them as...

If males have evolved to cheat (which is a fucking idiotic statement just meant to justify some married guy's weakness)...then no male should ever get married. So why do these dumbass pussies do it? Originally Posted by Wakeup

polygamist's evolved to hit it and leave. but some hunter/gatherer societies especially in Asia the woman would choose the man who was best able to take care of her.

the key though is in those days people didn't live to 80 years old. and in many places in the south/rural areas guys will marry the first girl to give them a handjob. so you get stuck hitting the same pussy for 60 years, doesn't make much sense... I don't know of a single happily married couple personally.. a buddy of mine got married yet heads to vegas and gets BJ's from strippers a couple times a year, his wife doesn't give head so he gets it somewhere else.. he knew that going in btw but he got married anyway as if things would change lol

You realize that everything you're saying is supporting my argument and destroying yours...right?

You realize that everything you're saying is supporting my argument and destroying yours...right? Originally Posted by Wakeup

not sure if this was directed at me but what makes you think my intentions were to disagree with you?

where did I ever say you were wrong on this subject?

I never posted I was married (i'm not nor have I ever been) but thanks for making assumptions. how on earth you came to that conclusion has me scratching my head.

Your argument doesn't care if you're married or not, so I assumed nothing. You stated that men had evolved to cheat on women...then everything you posted in that last post just contradicted it...