Yeah, I gotta agree here.
We talked, we both acknowledged to each other our own parts in this issue and we came to an amicable agreement to resolve and move forward.
I've been on this rodeo a few times, and I have to admit that has colored my perceptions of things leading to my posting.
And while she rightfully is concerned with her reputation, she was even more concerned that I knew she had my back..you can make the case that ok, she got caught and she's just trying to make good because...and I don't think that's the case here.
I know an excuse when I hear one, and there's a real difference between making excuses and listening and making an explanation. There's a difference between someone who engages with defense mechanisms and does all kinds of tricks to avoid accepting responsibility and someone saying to me, "I understand why you were angry." And there's a difference between someone expressing their feelings in a calm, respectful manner and someone blowing up because you fucked with whatever they had going on.
We all make mistakes in life. How someone deals with that is important. And considering the bad experiences I've had in the past, Jillian has not dealt with this the way I've seen from others. And she is doing, not just saying.
Regardless of how cynically you want to look at this, I've said from the beginning that I also played my part in what happened. Several points she brought up to me I had to admit she was dead right on. And she did the same on points I made. We both could have handled things better and we both put into coming to a way to do that in the future.
Yeah, lay off and let her continue to prove herself. I've never had any conflict with any provider negotiated out as maturely.
eccienewbie - As far as I know we haven't communicated too much, if at all, on these posts. But give it a rest. You keep jabbing this little newcomer when evidently the two significant others have made peace.
Quit trying to make a mountain out of linguistic wordings. Peace Out
Originally Posted by pilot4u2.0
