Questions for the guys: why do you hobby?

Married a lady with 2 kids, she went BSC, filed for divorce from a mental hospital, I adopted the kids and raised them myself. Divorce taught me one thing, it is an arrangement, a business transaction.

Now...Married again and continue to work hard, do all things that all the people in my world need including over 300 employees.

What about me? I want variety; from ages to body shapes to experiences and I want what I WANT...I do enough for others, sometimes I have to stop and think about what I want.

Which leads me to some old wisdom, which in ways seems both logical and irreverent...but...
"if it Floats, Flies or Fucks, Rent it"....as such I have several SB's, occasional Strip Club adventures and the occasional hourly fun. Nothing is free in this life, so I prefer to choose my experiences with knowledge of what the 'mutually beneficial' is expected to be.

Hope that helps with your very interesting post and thoughtful post.
Cheers!

Y’all are awesome! Thank you for all of the insights!!

Thanks Claire for a great thread. Lots of interesting responses.

I am married, 27 years to my best friend and a wonderful woman. This is my second marriage. My first lasted 16 years. So a total of 43 years to the only women I ever enjoyed sex with.

I started hobbying only two years ago, out of fear and curiosity. As I moved into my mid 60s, I was fearful that my days of enjoying sex might be coming to a close. My wife was losing interest, and the drugs I took for BPH caused ED. Thank goodness for Cialis. 😁 And worst of all, I was having trouble having orgasms.

Driven by this fear, I became curious as to whether having sex with someone else might answer some questions, the biggest question being whether my problems were caused by me or my wife. I did not want an affair or other relationship entanglement, so I elected to see online escorts.

It took only my first two providers to answer my questions. The problems were mine, not my wife’s. But by then I was hooked. Over the next year and a half I met many wonderful women, and enjoyed some extraordinary sex.

About five months ago, I owned up to my wife what I was doing. She was hurt, but she was also awakened. We talk more, and enjoy more sex together. Instead of once a week, it’s now 2-3 times a week.

So thank you to all the wonderful women I met. I might not play as often as I had, but I want to keep in touch. Stay safe everyone.

James

Couldn't vote as none of the categories applied.
I hobby only when I'm single. Look at the gaps in my reviews. Big gap = attached
When it comes to dating I'm pretty selective.
Gosh I miss Cards Against.....

If you're married, are you hobbying because you're not getting any at home? Or is it that you want a different type of experience than what you get at home? What do you get in the hobby that you don't get at home? (aside from an STD - that's a joke, people)

If you're single, do you hobby because you don't have time for a relationship? Or don't want a relationship but obviously still have needs?

I'm curious about the different reasons that men hobby... Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

I am single and 37 years old. I get turned down a lot when I was younger and there was not any girls my preference. Austin kind of sick with that, so usually I just look for love through the hobby to keep me from cracking since it sucks being lonely and knowing people I know just only use me for money, so I was like, "to hell with it!"

I am picky anyway and very safe.

Interesting enough, I have a Tinder and Zoosk. So usually I am the one looking for women. Men shouldn't wait til a good woman comes to them. They should just look and keep looking.

married....not much (if any) sex in the home....

I travel a LOT for work. I hate the bar scene and am often not in a city long enough for "traditional" meeting strategies.

Besides, there are a lot of ladies in this business who are nicer, more interesting, and more talented than the ladies I would meet when I was actively looking for a date while on the road. And a whole lot nicer than those that friends would try to set me up with.

I travel a LOT for work. I hate the bar scene and am often not in a city long enough for "traditional" meeting strategies.

Besides, there are a lot of ladies in this business who are nicer, more interesting, and more talented than the ladies I would meet when I was actively looking for a date while on the road. And a whole lot nicer than those that friends would try to set me up with. Originally Posted by Old-T

Hey Old-T. Thanks for your response.

So are you single or married?

I travel some too,and find it very convenient to schedule time with the local ladies.

this is a great thread Claire, thx sweet Lady

this is a great thread Claire, thx sweet Lady Originally Posted by sydmo

.....Besides, there are a lot of ladies in this business who are nicer, more interesting, and more talented than the ladies I would meet when I was actively looking for a date while on the road. And a whole lot nicer than those that friends would try to set me up with. Originally Posted by Old-T

So.... We could summarize that you get what you pay for.....

I've been a consumer of commercial sex on and off since the days of ASPD. My current SO does it for me 100% but she's incarcerated at the moment and this is just an outlet to that effect and I'll be gone again when she returns except for random threesomes when she's in the mood.

I've met some really neat ladies doing this and even a few RW friends came out of it.

married....not much (if any) sex in the home.... Originally Posted by texasfeet

^^^^
+1

this is a great thread Claire, thx sweet Lady Originally Posted by sydmo

^^^
Another +1
Good thread.