So if you get a text from me saying "Hi Torre. I noticed on your ECCIE ad that you will be visiting my city. Do you offer appointments after 8 PM, or are you only available during daylight hours?" I expect the courtesy of a reply to even be able to determine if we can see each other at all theoretically, before I start doing things like handing out references or putting any effort into an appointment that might never take place.
It's no different if a prospective customer is in his '80s but your ad does not specify whether or not you are senior friendly. Why would he waste his time providing you his linkedin profile and selecting a date and time to see each other only to find out you don't see guys over 60?
If the only response you know to a simple question to get some basic information is "Send me a selfie with your holding your ID" then I damn sure don't want to see you, and you just did me a favor.
This industry has changed so dramatically in the last 5 years ....
anyone who is a long time hobbyist know they have to up their game to "get what they want".
Screening is so up and down ... the resources ... dividing the "liars" from the "truth tellers".
Noticing the red flags ...
Tolerating the new kids on the block and their horrible Hobby Etiquette.
Learning how to stay sane while keeping your boundaries and such ...
So ... there is something to say about first contact.
Many dudes get weeded out immediately because of one liners .... or, acting like they already know you (calling you babe or sweetheart) ....
or asking about the menu ... etc., etc.
I guess we all have our preferences, but I can usually tell by first contact if this is someone I would be interested to see.
A nice greeting .... like, "Hello Torre ... I hope you are having a good day. I noticed your profile and was very impressed.
Please let me know what you need for screening as I would like to book an appointment with you in the near future."
NOT ....
- Hey babe ... you available today?
- Hello ...
- You're hot! Lets get together ..
- I wanna **** you .... interested?
- I'm on Eccie and have references .... are you available today?
Yeah ... that's just a few.
Cool your jets man! Just because your horny at the moment you gonna act a fool like that?
NOW ... note that I make exceptions for my regulars, ATFs and such.
After we hit it off ... and get to know each other, then the rule is out the window.
But first contact .... is a real reflection of your character and personality.
Again, some gals are less particular and that's all good
I'm just saying that most experienced and quality providers hit the "delete" button many many times.
Just something to think about before you send that text or email.
What are your thoughts on this ...
Does this come across as too persnickety or just careful of my time and intuitions?
I can only imagine the responses on this so I will just nip that in the butt.
**We just want to get a nut off and you should be thankful for the $$ (HA)!
**I don't have time to send a love letter ... so no thanks (Great! Not a match)!
**Looks like you're offering just what I need ... so I thought I would see if you would respond (Sorry .... Not enough read into that).
Someone had to say it. I gladly take it on.
Cheers!
Torre Originally Posted by Torre Tames