Slippery slope to me.
I thought ref's were just a pass/fail inquiry? So if a lady I've never seen before informs me that a lady I have seen (and obliviously I trust enough to use as a ref.) was "rude" then I'd have to wonder if the referring lady knows something I don't.
Plus I'd be asking myself that if I got a positive ref then why is she wanting to stir shit up by telling me a (possible)fave of mine was rude to her? All I wanna do is fuck. Don't drag me into a chick-fight......uuum unless there's lots of baby oil.