Does a tip or gift do anything for the client?

Roses, Chocolate covered strawberries, good wine and a Russian Mink Glove.
That sets the mood pretty nicely!
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What is a reasonable tip based on a lady meeting expected service levels if the normal hourly rate is as follows.

$200?
$250?
$300?
$350?
Most I've tipped is .30 on a $$.5 visit.

Hope that doesn't make me a cheapskate...
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As I said previously, I try to bring a small gift or leave a tip and feel it is appropriate and just my preference. If another hobbyists does not, that is their preference and I personally do not think it should make them any less accepted by the provider. It is all a matter of personal preference and I just feel that the gift or tip is just a liitle ice breaker on first date or the ongoing tips for exceptional service or treating me exceptionally well.

My neighbor doesnt have any flowers, so I would have to buy them.

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As I said previously, I try to bring a small gift or leave a tip and feel it is appropriate and just my preference. If another hobbyists does not, that is their preference and I personally do not think it should make them any less accepted by the provider. It is all a matter of personal preference and I just feel that the gift or tip is just a liitle ice breaker on first date or the ongoing tips for exceptional service or treating me exceptionally well.

My neighbor doesnt have any flowers, so I would have to buy them.

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Probably best your neighbor doesn't ..lol & I agree with you about it being the perfect Icebreaker

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Probably best your neighbor doesn't ..lol & I agree with you about it being the perfect Icebreaker

Originally Posted by Sweet N Little
SNL,

I would never ever break the law! lol.

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I never cared too much for extra money because what I charged per hour satisfied me financially. I never asked for tips or gifts.. while they were appreciated they were never expected! I don't get the "If you tip me more I'll treat you extra special" concept because any/every paying client is to be treated special. However, the men that brought me flowers, chocolate and wine on a regular basis, treated me nice, was clean and respectful would get huge discounts on multi-hour discounts lol. Yeah I was so easy . Originally Posted by Naomi4u
Flowers - check
Chocolate - check
Wine - check

Okay I'm good!!
I never expect to get a tip, but I'm always pleased when I get one. I never forget a man who brings me a gift - flowers, toys, gift cards, books, treats, etc. I have received all of these. These guys are remembered and appreciated. Any time someone makes me feel a little more human and like a lady, that's special to me.

A couple comments to respond to some of the thread:

A service worker who gets a tip is generally someone who is doing manual labor for you to be able to enjoy yourself or to save you time and hassle:

1) waiters/waitresses/bartenders/delivery people - make like 2 bucks or less per hour. They are working for tips. If you don't tip them, you are going to put yourself further down on Dante's scale of miscreants.

2) concierges, skycaps, maids, bellboys, hostesses, etc - still closely related in the service and hospitality industry, but make a full salary and a living wage outside tips, but still expecting and hoping for a tip.

3) hair stylists/shampoo people/manicurists/escorts - i would put me on the same level as these people. They make a good wage. But, what they do takes time, talent and skill. Often they have busy schedules. If you really like what they do for you and you want them to be available to you on those busy days - like right before holidays, Saturdays, or to be squeezed in at the last minute when you need something from them...then you treat them good. If you don't really worry about that kind of special treatment, leave them a $ 5 tip and be done with it. They don't EXPECT you to tip them, but if you want to be a (sugar said VIP I'll go with that) VIP, then you butter them up. That's just the way it goes.

4) Some service people you just give gifts to - like XMas presents for the garbage people, the postman, and yes - the staff at your doctor, your atty (if ur the type that uses that svc all the time), your CPA, your TAX MAN, etc...you might think of them or their staff once a year - but you're certainly not paying a PHD tips...you also might give your kids teacher a christmas present - you probably don't expect her to give you a bj when you do it though...lol

LOL - cheapskate behavior - I've got one for the list - when a rate is say 150 or 250, and you have 160 or 260 - and you ask the girl for change....lol - DONT DO THAT!!!! or do that - I don't care - but that's when I think "Man this guy is spending money he cannot afford to spend on me" - which makes me thankful that he did it instead of thinking bad about the poor guy - but I do think it's kind of cheap....and it is....
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What is a reasonable tip based on a lady meeting expected service levels if the normal hourly rate is as follows.

$200?
$250?
$300?
$350? Originally Posted by WiLsOn
Anybody wanna answer this question?
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Probably best your neighbor doesn't ..lol & I agree with you about it being the perfect Icebreaker

Originally Posted by Sweet N Little
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Anybody wanna answer this question? Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Well, shoot-- it's really up to you. I charge $300 typically, and on the rare occasion will run a special. I find when I run a special guys tip me really well because they realize-- oh-- you are worth $300. (edit: I'm really worth much more than this, but until we go back to the gold bar standard...) I've also had it where the guy was going to tip me $100 on an hour, but then decided to keep me three hours-- so even though he paid for three hours of my time technically, I thought that was a really great tip

If you like a girl and you could see yourself wanting to see her again, a twenty is at least nice. It's a small gesture, and for men who don't have a lot of cash-- I appreciate that they gave me a tip.

If you're looking for some specific rule to follow, I would say think of the service industry standards-- 15% for good solid service, 20% if they went a little above and beyond, 30% if they wowed you, and or, you definitely want to shoot near the top of the VIP list, and 40-50% if you know that the memory of this woman is your new ATF.

but then again-- it's all based on your budget. It's not like restaurants where you really shouldn't go out to eat if you can't afford to tip. A good client can show himself in several ways, one of which is tipping, but for another could just be writing a review (if the lady wants that) right away, and being a good client who doesn't wait too long to book again.

However, keep in mind, all the tanning, gym time, email correspondence, nails and makeup time, the cost of all of this, staying on top of photos, getting hotels, not to mention supplies like thigh highs, lingerie, toys, special oils-
Women have to factor these into their prices. So I think tipping really does give a woman warm fuzzies because it shows that her efforts were above and beyond and were received in an above and beyond fashion. But then-- maybe some women don't get warm fuzzies. I'm a warm fuzzies type of girl *shrug*
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Sugar Beth....

I promise I'm not the only one gettin the warm and fuzzies over your posts lol

In the end I do realize there's no precise answer to tipping because there are a lot of things to consider when tipping. There's also a lot a guy has to consider when deciding to tip. There are a lot of different reasons why some guys don't tip. Past experiences have a lot to do with it.

Also in my opinion like any business you have overhead costs and all the time you ladies spend taking care of yourselves should be figured into the rate you charge. 300hr may be a lot to some and for some it is but that's usually a budget issue. If you have an incal/outcall you pay for, spend time working out, tanning ect ect then that's overhead.

Depending on the girl and how I feel I'll tip. There's a provider I saw for the first time and wasn't able to tip and wanted to real bad. My intention was to take a trip to her, book less time than the first and go over the top with a tip. Unfortunately a month after meeting her the first time, she retired. I realize some say that it's the gesture that matters but I've never felt comfortable leaving 20 when I just paid 250. It almost seems like it would make a bad impression in the long run. Maybe I'm wrong about that, wouldn't be the first time I've been wrong lol.
http://www.payscale.com/tipping-chart I would think this would fall under "personal services" no?

Remember those little wallet sized TIP Schedule Cards? lol

http://www.essortment.com/proper-tip...tte-36840.html
Hmmm.... I was thinking a lot about this on the way to and from an appointment. What I think I started to communicate but didn't follow through all the way, is that there are women who no doubt charge similarly but don't worry about upkeep as much, or don't really pay attention to the little details. To a certain extent, my overhead is built in, and the response has been really, really good. However, if I was getting positive responses but a certain "meh-ness" from guys, even if they scheduled with me again, I might have to reconsider spending as much as I do on overhead-- shrinking it as you will.

But then again, guys are notorious for not really caring about the little details, so perhaps all it really is boils down to being passably attractive, punctual, engaging, and light-hearted-- all things that don't factor into any concrete overhead at all. It's something that I'm going to ruminate on, and for now I'll stick to what I'm doing because I feel it's working for me. I do find it REALLY interesting that when I was a dancer, men tipped me more regularly and didn't always seem like they were doing it just to get to my girlie bits. I think that's somewhat related to having a lot of notoriously bad strippers out there who treated clients like dirt, or close to it. It's easy to stand out from that with the characteristics I listed above.

and now that they are getting to my girlie bits...perhaps-- in the end, it's that there's so many wonderful service providers who show the characteristics that are intangible to considering overhead... there's certainly awful ones too, but my point is, it's harder to stand out with such excellent company

And, you know, that's not such a bad thing.

On the flip side, there's so many wonderful clients, so once again-- should a man (or a woman) want to stand out for whatever reason, be it appreciation or the hopes of garnering perks, then there are several ways to accomplish that. Thank you for the thought-provoking discussion.


and, Amusemeant, I went back and read your post and thought it was a really good read and certainly broached on several good points.
  • LynnT
  • 05-14-2011, 04:15 PM
But that's just it: What is special? For him? For her? How does one know? (short of something just being super over the top) Originally Posted by atlcomedy
I guess i just appreciate a gift, any gift.. the thought, etc. I think its sweet. I dont get many so Im like a kid in a candy store and all gooey. he he Im with Sugar Beth.