To the ladies... would you consider going out with a client for real?

No to the first question and yes to the second Originally Posted by SweetM

Good to have clarity on your statement. If you were providing and your husband didn't know about it, that's really something that I couldn't agree with. As for the hobbyist that you're seeing, has he voice out interest or are you just assuming? In anycase, I hope you sort it out with him without damaging your relationship.

As I do have a "partner in crime" for over 30 years...the answer would be no.But on a couple of RARE occassions,I did get comfortable with a couple of my regulars and would let them join my guy and me in some threesome fun with no envelope needed. Originally Posted by DallasRain

lucky bastards!

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Never mistake something for what it isn't.

quote... As for the hobbyist that you're seeing, has he voice out interest or are you just assuming? In anycase, I hope you sort it out with him without damaging your relationship.


Mu "guy" knows..he has been to m & g's...he has met some of the gals...he has even played with me and a few clients

We are a different kinda couple..we have a very open minded relationship! lol

A lot of times women in the adult industry have to keep certain parts of their lives secret because of the business. But dating a client would be a situation that invites a certain openness. I think it's ideal ...

OP - it sounds like you aren't really going to be fooled into thinking with your little head, at least immediately. In my short time on this planet ... I have learned a couple of things ... my life philosophy has congealed down to a few short things ...

1) 9 of the 10 commandments.
2) Serenity Prayer - not an Alky, jut keeps me clear of crap.
3) Caveat Emptor - Buyer Beware.
4) Carpe Diem - Seize the Day

If you do your due diligence and see some good life experience ahead ... go for it. Every situation is so unique that it's impossible to train 2 dogs the same - why would anyone else's experience dictate yours ...

good luck.

I have had a few providers hit me with that line.I miss you,was thinking about you,etc.Simple test is to text them back i miss you too do you want to hang out?.They reply yes baby i need you.Then you replay i need you to but i am short on $ today do you sill want to hang out........You will know where you stand real fast works in the SB/SD deal as well.Its a simple quick test lol Originally Posted by flyinghillbilly

boiled down. I like

OP - it sounds like you aren't really going to be fooled into thinking with your little head, at least immediately. In my short time on this planet ... I have learned a couple of things ... my life philosophy has congealed down to a few short things ...

1) 9 of the 10 commandments.
2) Serenity Prayer - not an Alky, jut keeps me clear of crap.
3) Caveat Emptor - Buyer Beware.
4) Carpe Diem - Seize the Day

If you do your due diligence and see some good life experience ahead ... go for it. Every situation is so unique that it's impossible to train 2 dogs the same - why would anyone else's experience dictate yours ...

good luck. Originally Posted by rogerdodger

Excellent response

OP - it sounds like you aren't really going to be fooled into thinking with your little head, at least immediately. In my short time on this planet ... I have learned a couple of things ... my life philosophy has congealed down to a few short things ...

1) 9 of the 10 commandments.
2) Serenity Prayer - not an Alky, jut keeps me clear of crap.
3) Caveat Emptor - Buyer Beware.
4) Carpe Diem - Seize the Day

If you do your due diligence and see some good life experience ahead ... go for it. Every situation is so unique that it's impossible to train 2 dogs the same - why would anyone else's experience dictate yours ...

good luck. Originally Posted by rogerdodger

wisest advice I've seen so far. thanks man.

I've had some GREAT otc time with providers. Two things seem to have made it work when it has happened...1) We go out as friends with no other expectations. 2) I never expect ladies to do it...sometimes the stars just align themselves. :-)

The best New Years Eve I ever had was spent with 2 providers who invited me to join them. Though they never said so, I think my primary function was to be a 'cock blocker' to other potential suiters while they enjoyed themselves. There was no exchange of dollars other than LOTS of drinks I provided and no sex that night. I had a BLAST and loved the look on other guys faces as they tried to figure out HOW. LOL

Noooooooo! Won't make that mistake again! My ex would get jealous and start telling me how to live my life...when he doesn't even live in the same state as I do. Turns out that he's on a blacklist (found out via a regular Google search of his phone number) and he claimed he didn't know how he got on there because he's not a hobbyist. SMDH!

I will admit to having had a crush on a couple of clients in my time. I have been both single and married while being a provider. Being married didn't keep me from being a bit infatuated with a client that I had a great time with both in and out of the bedroom. But I never went out of my way to let them know how I felt. I suppose I was afraid of losing a good client that I enjoyed spending time with, and that they would reject me because of the way we met, etc. But, I've often wondered...what if?

That said, I have had lots of clients that I could tell wanted to date me outside the hobby, and some that I just suspected, but I was just not interested in them that way. I feel bad when this happens, but I remind myself that I've not led them on in any way, in fact the complete opposite. Which is why I try to be very careful NOT to do anything that might be construed as "leading him on."

And...then there is that one guy. The one I'm head over heels for, but I know it will never ever work out with. Still, I let myself dream. Ha! Perhaps I'm the biggest fool of all. Maybe it happens to the best of us.

In a situation a little further along than OP. And looking forward to seeing where it goes...

50/50 i would say does she allow u to stay longer and chill? yes, and have gone out before and after sessions for lunch or a drink text or call u to update u on her life? fairly often, always brightens my day are u on her personal facebook or Twitter? no, don't think she uses them do u know her real name? Just her first name have u just hung out as friends no donation? She suggested during the last session. I think she has some worries, that have been mentioned is this thread, so I haven't brought it up since if you cant say yes to a few of those questions she is useing a marketing technique and you almost got played Originally Posted by Kayla Flowers

She knows I hobby on a budget, that I like spending time with her, enough that I would want overnights if I could swing the donation. BCD with her is amazing and I had fun the few times we went out for a quick lunch or drink.

If we do ever spend time Off TC, it would be with no expectations and as friends. I would be very flattered if anything happened, but would not expect to have sex. That would be her choice. Going to dinner or a club with a beautiful woman on my arm and good convo with someone I genuinely like would be a good day for me.

So back to OP. If you would date her with no sex at the end of the night and still enjoy yourself, lay back and see what happens. Be a gentleman and be upfront about your expectations and ask her about hers.

In a situation a little further along than OP. And looking forward to seeing where it goes...



She knows I hobby on a budget, that I like spending time with her, enough that I would want overnights if I could swing the donation. BCD with her is amazing and I had fun the few times we went out for a quick lunch or drink.

If we do ever spend time Off TC, it would be with no expectations and as friends. I would be very flattered if anything happened, but would not expect to have sex. That would be her choice. Going to dinner or a club with a beautiful woman on my arm and good convo with someone I genuinely like would be a good day for me.

So back to OP. If you would date her with no sex at the end of the night and still enjoy yourself, lay back and see what happens. Be a gentleman and be upfront about your expectations and ask her about hers. Originally Posted by Mizzou82

Scratch everything I said. Guess I spooked her or she changed her mind for some other reason. Had everything set for this week and she cancelled. I am confused since I never brought it up and she suggested it. Oh well, live and learn

Mixing business with pleasure. Be careful Sh*t can hit the fan.This business no strings attached business.