Greetings all!
My musings on the escort industry:
(1) It has reinforced the importance of having a good woman in my life. An escort is a poor substitute for the real thing. I think this is a paradoxical result given how society and the Religious Right demonize the industry.
(2) If you have to ask the question, “Is she worth it?”, then the answer is NO. The correct question to ask is, “Do I want to spend time with her?”
(3) Having a good experience starts with the Client. Treating the lady like a “piece of ass” will result in the lady treating the client as an ATM machine. Treat the lady like a person and it will take you far.
(4) A good experience means that at some level an emotional connection is reached. Otherwise, the experience is dehumanizing.
(5) An emotional connection does not mean that a personal relationship is sought or formed. Personal relationships are of the “real world” and the escort-client professional relationship is the stuff of dreams and fantasies. People need their dreams and fantasies. An emotional connection just means that the people involved acknowledge each other’s humanity - we are not machines.
(6) I’ve tried to assess whether my activities have been damaging to either the girls or to society in general. I don’t see it. I don’t understand why prostitution is illegal.
Just my thoughts.
Originally Posted by Absinthe1912
Interesting findings, Absinthe.
1. I totally agree with you here. But you have to understand that it's really hard to meet quality women or men that you are sexually attracted to AND is willing to be the open-minded freaky bastard in the bedroom when you get there. We provide what is supposed to be that balance that everyone needs in their life. But I agree, most definitely not a substitute.
2. This is true both in the hobby and real world. And I think both questions are legitimate. When it comes to the opposite sex, worst case scenario is that you may want to spend time with a woman that may not be worth what you're shelling out. Whether that's a financial or an emotional toll.
3. I don't think it starts with the client only, I think it starts with the lady's view of herself as well, and this will in turn determine her clientele. And in turn, treating each other well will result in positive experiences in the hobby overall.
4. I soo agree with you about emotional connections. The time has to be taken in order for that connection to be reached. However, one thing people have to understand is you control NO ONE but yourself, and you can't hurt anyone who wasn't already hurt. You can't break a spirit that wasn't already hanging by a thread. So dehumanization starts within. Even if we don't have the best time, we can just chalk it up to bad chemistry.
5. I agree wholeheartedly with this statement. You have no arguments with me here.
6. As with my statements above, you can't damage someone who wasn't already damaged, and why this path isn't for every woman. A lot of ladies get into this the wrong way. The girls that just figured out that they were pretty, and that they could get what they need/want for that reason only. Who, without growth and education will know no other path but needing men for money. I think if they do legalize it in the US, I think there should be an education requirement. If you haven't finished high school, you should not be allowed to be a provider. (I know, dreaming, right?) But I agree with Lina, if you view this as a source of income, it will be draining in every way possible. There are ladies that I know that have done nothing BUT this. They look up and they're 40. With no skills to do anything else. It is a very sad reality, but a true one. I have preached this to every young woman that I can that this is not something you do out of desperation. Change the woman's opinion about herself, you change the way of the world.
As far as it's impact on society, if we don't take the opportunity at every turn to educate our young ladies about their options in life, no one will arrive at the decision to do this willingly. Their needs to be more focus on the youth of the US to prevent disparity among kids who may not have the guidance that they may need to make the best decisions in life, despite of what they see around them.
As for the comments on the legality of prostitution in other countries, it's being associated with human trafficking and slavery by those in the US because it's hard to know who's doing this on their own free will. And such is the case here in the US as well, considering the AMP market here.
I have enjoyed this post, and am sad that I could not reply sooner.
Originally Posted by Nicolette Morgandy
