Please bring the Condoms

FireKitten's Avatar
I'm always prepared. Don't need anything else, not expecting anything else.

However, amongst other things, there have been some legal ramifications that have been in flux, lately, about being caught with condoms. For a period of time, and in many cases, that is linked to being guilty for prostitution, and including the intent for other similar activities that include sex, just for having them on you. The laws are constantly up and down about this. This year in particular, this may be scaring some, to at least appear like they don't have any.
Crazy how some of the men are actually OFFENDED about having to bring condoms to a place where they will be used...

A better question I would ask is, "Why WOULDN'T you bring your own condoms?"

It's not like you don't know what size fits you best, and what logic would say expecting a provider to have them is a safe bet?


That's like expecting for your hotel to have a functioning iron to cover for you packing wrinkled clothes on purpose, when the clothes could have been ironed beforehand.

Geez... Originally Posted by YourHonor

It's not a question of whether people are upset or not, it's the fact that as one of our astute lady pointed out, some hobbyists are married/tied to someone and would rather not having a paper trail. It's already hard enough for them to get the funds.
Taking off work without pay for an appointment - $200-$300
Stopping at the ATM for fun money - $200-$300

Not bringing your own $3.00 cover...and she doesn’t have one either - Priceless.

Ipthirteen1701's Avatar
Also to add a large percentage of men are married and the last thing they need is to get caught with condoms or even a receipt for them. The donations we receive aren't just for services but for discretion and making things simple....like providing what we need!
When I first started in this hobby I met some beautiful elegant women. One taught me about finding out what each client likes and catering to that. If he likes sports keep yourself up to date on the sports page. Espn works wonders while your getting ready. Another likes art iN your free time walk through a gallery. It's actually enjoyable. Educate your self on famous artists. Another loves steaks I can name quite a few great steak houses and where they are located. Travel hot spots are always fun to talk about. Actors movies etc. You get my drift. You should be able to be a lady he can enjoy verbally and still fuck your brains out! Lol If you can't provide the number 1 necessity what does that say about your all over service? IJS Originally Posted by sexykim2008

Wow, Kim. This is why I have seen you more than once. It's important for me to be stimulated by a lady mentally, as well as physically and what you say hits the nail right on the head.
Also to add a large percentage of men are married and the last thing they need is to get caught with condoms or even a receipt for them. The donations we receive aren't just for services but for discretion and making things simple....like providing what we need!
When I first started in this hobby I met some beautiful elegant women. One taught me about finding out what each client likes and catering to that. If he likes sports keep yourself up to date on the sports page. Espn works wonders while your getting ready. Another likes art iN your free time walk through a gallery. It's actually enjoyable. Educate your self on famous artists. Another loves steaks I can name quite a few great steak houses and where they are located. Travel hot spots are always fun to talk about. Actors movies etc. You get my drift. You should be able to be a lady he can enjoy verbally and still fuck your brains out! Lol If you can't provide the number 1 necessity what does that say about your all over service? IJS Originally Posted by sexykim2008
Ok ... I think I'm in love!! I got a boner just reading this and I hadn't even looked at her showcase yet!!
DallasRain's Avatar
Ditto

Providers who relate or connect with their clients/friends are more successful

I may be just a redneck Texas gal. But I keep updated on news..jokes..trivia...sports and such
The bedroom is much more fun when you connect with your playmate!
And they said blondes have more fun pffft....they have never fucke d a redhead!

Thank you gentleman.I'm just trying to help a few fellow providers out that may just not know better.
Honestly this is how the hobby is evolving. In the old days of a provider didn’t have condoms it was either a fluke or she was flakey. Chances are she told a lot of guys this and she soon washed out or many providers provided the cheap/small rubbers and offered no options.

If a reputable provider cites the reason(s) to bring your own then embrace the change.
rexdutchman's Avatar
Once in the RW I had lady ask me that ( it was a good night , day morning) ,,,,,
defleppard's Avatar
^^^^^^This!!!!! I just love you to the moon and back!

Asking a guy to bring his own condoms is tacky. A lady should have supplies to operate her business. And she should have a variety of supplies, because not all fellas are created equally. Personally, I rather use my own because I know they haven't been tempered with, haven't been sitting in the heat in someone's trunk and aren't expired. Originally Posted by Laura Lynn
I’m a businessman. Being prepared to serve is one mark of a good business. So, from that perspective, I agree with you 100%. Quite obviously, if a guy has a preference, the onus is on him to provide or pre-arrange that which he prefers if it is something different than the standard offering.

There’s also a safety consideration. Recently I had an appointment scheduled with an eccie lady. Just about 10 minutes before the scheduled appointment she texts and asked me to pick these up, adding that she forgot to get them. This bothered me. Here’s why:

1) I very rarely (almost never) do L3 in the hobby. I generally reserve that for home. That hasn’t always been he case; but, it has been for me for the past couple of years. The appointment was made with a less than L3 expectation set and this provider clearly offers Bumble Bee Joy. ;-) So, the request was concerning, slightly unprofessional and disorganized at best.

2) The only post eccie re-launch reviews this lady had were from one user with 2 reviews and one with 3 reviews. Not confidence inspiring. So, point 1 above became a little more concerning to me.

3) The lady was using a hotel. This is a potential point of contention for me, sometimes, if the provider has any other warning signs by my personal standard. You never really know who will be behind that door. Risk mitigation includes taking all things into account. If everything seems on the up and up, great reviews - plenty of them - recent, consistent ads, consistently mature presence in the forums without excessive divisiveness, recent photos, etc. then a hotel might be fine for me, especially if I have a history with the lady. In this case I didn’t.

So, for me, the last minute request to bring covers, lack of recent reviews from well established users, and location at a hotel all added up to the need for an additional safety step for me.

I wanted to make sure that who I was expecting to meet, was who was actually waiting for me. I asked her if she would be willing to meet me in the lobby and walk me up. Having seen profile pics, there’d be no question that who I was expecting is who was there. She declined. Understandable.

Then I asked if she would send me a selfie of her from within the room. That way, when the door opened, she would exactly match the pic, plus as a traveler, I’m familiar with the interior of this brand of hotel and could easily determine if the pic she sent was actually from the room... again just confirmation that who I was expecting to see is who I would see, rather than someone with a nefarious intent. She balked at this as well, first claiming that she sent it - when I replied that I hadn’t received it, then she said I couldn’t receive it. As I replied I always receive images, she offered that her text app would NOT allow her to send images. Hmmm...

I offered a third option and asked her to send the selfie in PM here in the board. She’s got profile pics and places pics in ads, so it reasoned to me that she could upload her selfie and send me the link to its location via PM. She balked at this as well, and went on a rant and seemingly became very angry. I explained that I just needed some confirmation that who I was expecting to meet would be the same person I would actually encounter instead of another person or persons.

Her communication devolved from there, and I cancelled the appointment.

It all started with that last minute request to bring supplies - one little detail in a larger picture of potential concerns.
Had this requested once and received an explanation. Some women are under the impression that LE is not allowed to bring and give gifts. So picking up that pack of cigarettes or condoms proves you are not LE. This is probably why they consider it to be a safety issue.

This to me is right up there with the illusion that you can ask a person if they are LE and they have to be truthful. If there are any actual lawyers out there feel free to cite actual laws.
I'm surprised some show up with condoms. I don't mind but my vagina only likes one kind so....
I always have them. No excuses for not having one handy.
defleppard's Avatar
Had this requested once and received an explanation. Some women are under the impression that LE is not allowed to bring and give gifts. So picking up that pack of cigarettes or condoms proves you are not LE. This is probably why they consider it to be a safety issue.

This to me is right up there with the illusion that you can ask a person if they are LE and they have to be truthful. If there are any actual lawyers out there feel free to cite actual laws. Originally Posted by ValenTX
...and the reverse is: Showing up with them removes, or at least lessons, plausible deniability... so, yeah, no. :-)
Ladies should keep them and not ask, IMHO.
GenesisNicole's Avatar
Nothing like female condoms.

If I am not buying them online in bulk, good ol Planned Parenthood sells them for $2/each. (I have been lucky enough that they just hand me over a bag full. Love them!!)

*curtsy*
Why isn't the female condom more popular?