Respect a simple yet lost concept

Some of the things said in cyberspace would be cause for a good bitch slap or ass whopping in real life. Originally Posted by shorty

That's all I'm sayin.

Can I hide in your viginia? Pleeeeeese, I promise not to tell, if you won't. I'm afraid these new Mods are about to come looking for mean ole me!


Originally Posted by WTF

I have your back darling :-)

Oh i might challenge that experience of yours. I am certainly a person who is also rude in real life same like here (oh yes no need to bring me roses, i know, autographs later..... ) and i am in no way ever avoiding a confrontation. Ever.

I think i told you i am a political activist and i am not really hiding the fact i am an escort either. Then i am polyamorous and also active political on these things. So you are wrong in assuming because i am rude i lack self esteem and crawl in a hole when confrontations arise. Being authentic comes with confrontation. Everyone that knows me would say i am rather too confrontative than the other way round. My family knows i am an escort and so do my friends. And believe me i heard a lot of rude things about me and i had a lot of people who don`t want to be involved with me because of that. So being open and honest is not so easy. I think people who lead a double life are much rather the ones who avoid and sort of confrontation. I don`t do that. Maybe that is one of the reasons why i am a rude. I have learned to defend myself that way. I try to improve. Its good for me to improve and learn to be softer again.

But i have met people like the ones you mean too. But mostly its women pretending to be something they are not in reality. Like feminists when they have abusive relationships and stuff. Originally Posted by ninasastri

Nina that is why I like you! You are not afraid of confrontation and you speak your mind! I have no doubt you are just as bold and exciting in person as you are online. I would never suggest that you are in that "general" category I was speaking of! LOL

Someday we must meet!!

I am not going to kiss anyone's azz Originally Posted by London Rayne

All you need to learn is to say "Kiss my azz" Originally Posted by London Rayne

You're not going to kiss anyone's azz, yet you aren't hesitant to tell anyone to kiss your azz.

Isn't that a little inconsistent?

Nina that is why I like you! You are not afraid of confrontation and you speak your mind! I have no doubt you are just as bold and exciting in person as you are online. I would never suggest that you are in that "general" category I was speaking of! LOL

Someday we must meet!! Originally Posted by Bebe Le Strange

We will meet! That is for sure.

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You're right, Sisyphus; this is exhausting in its unending spiral. Let's go back to sex. Is saying, "Please ____ me harder with your big ____!" considered a respectfully polite request even with the bad words?

Originally Posted by Fancyinheels

In Sisyphus case it would be considered an impossible request!

. Some of the things said in cyberspace would be cause for a good bitch slap or ass whopping in real life. Originally Posted by shorty

But the fact of the matter is we are in cyber space, not real life. So WTF are people getting their panties in a wad about?

It is just a board. Good Lord, don't folks have the brain power to back up their thoughts? There are plenty of threads I do not give a flying fuc about. Guess what, I stay out of'em.

I have your back darling :-) Originally Posted by ninasastri

Your backside and London TP, YeeHawwwwww!

In Sisyphus case it would be considered an impossible request! Originally Posted by WTF

Suspension of disbelief, my brother! It's what separates the talented from the merely mundane!!!

[sings]
Tell me lies, I KNOW the truth...tell me lies...


OK, Mr. Pot, as you were....

You're not going to kiss anyone's azz, yet you aren't hesitant to tell anyone to kiss your azz.

Isn't that a little inconsistent? Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Easy there Mister. I didn't say I was making any sense here.

Your backside and London TP, YeeHawwwwww! Originally Posted by WTF

Now that's a three way I would look forward to participating in. New Orleans anyone? Mardi Gras is just around the corner.

Yes, sad you have to point out what should be implicitly respected.

Leah Ireland x

I actually find that cyberspace is more crude than real life.....
......In cyberspace, people tend to get the courage to speak what's on their mind . Originally Posted by shorty

I can see and agree with your first point but I'm not sure I agree with the first line of your second point.
Communication is more than just words, whether they are written or spoken. In that sense, we pick up on much more when we speak face to face with people...particularly their body language, their tone when they do speak etc. When you communicate via a secondary method (phone/mail/internet etc) the options you have for communicating are much more limited and to a certain degree a struggle of understanding is much more likely to ensue. Issues that wouldn't become nearly as complex or heated in person (just by being present and seeing)become radioactive on internet forums. In addition to this, people are generally not as invested in the people we meet online even if we interact here frequently...because we are not a part of each others daily lives in person. The relationships here are much more transient than the ones we have in real life with friends and even people we don't know well but see often such as the mail man, shop assistant etc. So my point is, I don't necessarily think people do speak their mind on the internet....but not intentionally. I just think much is lost in such limited forms of communication...sometimes it's the content and sometimes it's the style and delivery but I certainly think that this 'loss" is what leads to higher levels of frustration that you'd see in your day to day life. Of course, there are adults that do intentionally hide behind the net and other secondary modes of communiacting..but that's a whole other topic.

As a provider I don't send or reply to text messages. It all starts with an email..and at some point we will talk before meeting. I have a really simple approach to how I view emails. I ask myself, "If a man I didn't know approached me in person and spoke those words to me would I respond?" If the answer is yes, I will reply..if not, "delete." For me, it's just an indication of his ability and willingness to communicate. I always try and reply in the same way. If we can't communicate fully clothed, then I'm not interested in finding out if we can communicate naked. of course, the hope is that communication gets even better (with the same person) over time..but if it starts off feeling complicated I'll leave it there.

One thing that bothers me about the internet/technology is that kids are learning to communicate that way. If it's not FB or twitter, its myspace or some high fallutin chat room that is the current dog bollocks of cyberspace...and when they are not on the net they are texting like crazy. Learning how to communicate in person is becoming a lost art...because these kids have too much technology to rely on, or worse still, to hide behind when the going get tough. There has been way too much cyber bullying in the news lately and it's only going to get worse. I don't know how you control that because of lot of the cases that have resulted in deaths have involved young people that are too old to cybernanny on the net. They say that technology helps us to communicate more easily but I'm not sure I agree, I think it just helps us to communicate faster..and faster is not always a good thing....that's why we have speed limits. As someone said in another thread, this is a society of instant gratification and sometimes the price of that is just too high. Just MO...

C x

You are right we all don't agree with everything. But because of the lack of civility and consideration of others, people have stopped posting. Originally Posted by Ansley

I never stopped posting because posters were uncivil to me or did not take my precious feelings to heart.

Are you telling me that folks that have no trouble being uncivil to others do not care for it when the tables are turned? That has made them stop posting?

In cyberspace, people tend to get the courage to speak what's on their mind. . Originally Posted by shorty

What is wrong with this?

In cyberspace, people tend to get the courage to speak what's on their mind. . Originally Posted by shorty

It is no different than knowing the culture of another country. You should be aware of it going in and then see if it is for you but to be accepting of different POV one needs an open mind. One which will accept that with this new form of communication there is a trade off and just accept the good with each persons perception of the bad. If we took everybody feelings into account before posting nothing would ever get posted. Someone somewhere would be offended. It is the World Wide Web. You are not talking to a small audience.

One thing that bothers me about the internet/technology is that kids are learning to communicate that way. If it's not FB or twitter, its myspace or some high fallutin chat room that is the current dog bollocks of cyberspace...and when they are not on the net they are texting like crazy. Learning how to communicate in person is becoming a lost art...because these kids have too much technology to rely on, or worse still, to hide behind when the going get tough.
C x Originally Posted by Camille

I see it as just another paradigm shift. It just 'is', it is the new reality. Just as cars replaced horses. The people that accept the reality first will be happier IMHO. Just ask the Egyptians That is why I suggest getting tougher skin when surfing the net. That is the reality, there is no stuffing the Genie back in the bottle. Kids nowdays are more accepting of gays and interacial dating so life truly is better IMHO.

I do always enjoy your take Ms C

You made some very interesting points Camille. I do agree with the kids relying on the internet and texting too much. They don't think of the consequences of what they are writing or texting to other kids. They are the ones that are very vulable to bullying and talked into doing things. I just think its kids not being mature enough for all the technology thats out there. Kids don't really know how to communicate face to face because of all the technology. God forbid them if they have to write a essay without use the abbreviations they come up with.

I think the internet overall has decreased and somewhat hurt human relationships. I mean my ex and I were together for 3 years and might have had an actual phone conversation once a week. It was mostly all text flirting and emails. I miss the days when you stayed up til 7 in the morning talking to a guy....those were the days.

I miss the days when you stayed up til 7 in the morning talking to a guy....those were the days. Originally Posted by London Rayne

I miss those days too. I'd offer you one, London, for free. But at my age, I'd surely be snoring well before 7. LOL