The right to choose ?

This is a bit of a tough, downhill breaking left to right putt , but I will take a swing. Think JFRED makes some good points below.

Was with a lovely Dallas lady just yesterday ( in Las Vegas of all places), review to follow. We talked a bit about this thread. We had a glass of wine, talked of this thread and at the key moment, I asked her if she was comfortable. If she was not or could not be "into it" in any manner, I am out the door, and I didn't have a plan B.

Luckily she took her clothes off and I took that as a good sign. Life is just too GD short to deal with the alternative, IMO.

This might be an appropriate place to remember that there are different levels of expectation and different levels of service in P4P Land.

There are guys who do this just to fuck (goddammit) and when they go see a lady they expect to do exactly that. Bend-her-over-fuck-her-and-get-on-their-way guys. A few moans and some canned dialogue is all the "chemistry" they understand, or want. They got the money, she's selling, they're horny, WTF is chemistry, anyway? Talk of anything beyond that makes them think you're looking for a wife or husband.

Let me be the first to say that there is a place for guys like that here. And there are plenty of women to service them. Donnie B, if you spend just a little time and make sure you select women who care about money as much as you seem to, you will never be turned away.

There are also guys who want a lot more than that, Happily, there are also women who are better suited to their desires and expectations. If I were going to a restaurant, or a tire store, or anywhere else I was planning to drop a couple hundred bucks, and was informed, "I don't think you're going to be satisfied with the results today," I might be miffed, but I'd sure rather know that before I spent my money than after.

To be fair, I wouldn't hesitate to tell others about what had transpired at that business. And I think that a provider refusing a gentleman due to "lack of chemistry" is something that should be shared among guys here. Originally Posted by jfred

It's not about the person, but what's in their wallet. For the right amount of $ anyone can click. Originally Posted by Sneaky Winky

Such a narrow and naive point of view.

Nice, very nice. You're a VERY BRIGHT ONE! Not only did you PM me and gave me shit because you thought I was talking about you, (and I kindly explained to you that I was not, at the time I had no reason to have a beef with you), BUTT you come on the thread and also gave me shit publicly. I guess this really is aspd, where we can have all the drama available. Sad, sad, sad. Same shit different day. I'm done with this one. Have a good day. Originally Posted by Donnie Brasco

You know, youre not even worth it!

This is a business. But not every business is Burger King.

In sex, each partner has the absolute right to say "no" to anything, at any time, for any reason.

But with rights come responsibilities. In this case one must use the right to say "no" judiciously and sparingly. Otherwise it'll get harder and harder to find others who'll say "yes."

I would not mind being turned away at the door...it's not like you're going to the doctor or the dentist or the barber shop...having sex is a very personal thing and if either party doesn't have warm fuzzies about it then it's just not in the cards to happen...and I can see no earthly reason for it to be documented or defended on this or any other board...

I've just spent 15 minutes reading this entire thread and can't understand what all the commotion is about...Rebecca if you don't feel comfortable with a guy just tell him...life goes on...

Tara and everyone how do you get what other people posted in the gray quotes box above your reply to their post? Yes I am having a blonde moment

Just hit the Quote button before you start your post...

If I was asked to leave after showing up, I would politely note it in a review stating how and at what point it happened. It would also be noted as a YMMV.

Pretty simple. It's also a kernel of information that is important to know.

I've had sessions that the chemistry didn't really work, but attempted the deed anyway. There have been some sessions I had to be pushed out the door. lol

Just hit the Quote button before you start your post... Originally Posted by fortwortholdguy

GOT IT LOL LOL

GOT IT LOL LOL Originally Posted by Rebeccaofdallas

After seeing that picture of you Rebecca there sure is something that comes to mind that I'd like to get

Heather:

Don't i look like David Beckham? Originally Posted by Bestman200600

Sweetheart, you look better.

And you're about the nicest guy I've met so far to boot. Kisses, H

That gun bucks as hard as it shoots. Fine by me. Only fair.

I like Alea"s idea.. Very smart lady..

I also think Alea's idea is great. When I was hobbying, I would have tried to see her for that reason alone, except that she wanted too much personal information, from my perspective.

I have no problem with either side wanting to back out.

This business is just too intimate and personal to contrast or analogize it to a typical buyer/seller transaction; so all those comparisons are meaningless.

Frankly, I'd much rather have a visit with a provider who I had chemistry with than not, and if she were ever to tell me beforehand that there was just no "connection" for her, for whatever reason, good, bad, or indifferent, and send me politely on my way, I'd be thankful to her for saving me my time and $.

And while it's never happened to me, actually, I'd much prefer a provider who has this attitude. It tells me a lot about her character and that she is not just in it for the money.