Again, you're talking about things that I didn't say or suggest. You haven't grasped my main point yet, so please try not to make assumptions about what I'm thinking. My main point has nothing to do with how active people are in the hobby or where/when they hobby. My only point was that nobody knows who the cheaters are. You could be in a high-risk situation without knowing it. It could be your SO, me, my SO, or anyone else's SO. If you think you're any safer because "it's not exactly easy to cheat on a hooker dude", I think you're naive. In other words, I don't think it's any safer for you to do BBFS with your SO (when you have one) than with a hobbyist. So none of us should do BBFS thinking that it's safe because it's with your SO. Your SO might be arranging hookups on ahsleymadison.com while we all read this.
We all need to protect ourselves and we all need to be realistic about our SOs. Half of our SOs are cheating on us.
Originally Posted by Lust4xxxLife
No...I did and do get your point but you're the one who is naive. YES, we could all be at risk no matter who the person is we are doing it with...that I get. What you don't get, is that you are projecting YOUR habits and those of the hobby onto every man in the world. It's simply NOT true. I know many guys who won't touch a hooker because they think we are dirty, but they will fk some slut from the bar with a condom. So even though I don't know 100 percent if a guy is cheating, I damn sure do know that not all men fk around much less with hookers. If a married man is cheating, he generally does not want to get caught by catching something. I have NEVER in all my time as a provider had a married man propose bbbs...ever. I have however, had many single guys bring it up.
If a guy is dumb enough to try and cheat on a girl who was once a provider, it's going to be a very easy catch..duh. We have heard it ALL! Again, married men DON'T WANT TO GET CAUGHT! Very FEW are dumb enough to go without protection. Getting someone pregnant, does not exactly help when there is a prenup that is null in void in the case of adultery.
Don't assume all men are that fkin dumb, because only a handful are. You are suggesting that a married couple should not have sex unprotected..wtf, that's why most get married to begin with. Sorry, but that's ludicrous. I see the big picture, but I am not buying it. I would never marry a guy I could not trust to begin with, and if I had to worry about crap like that...see ya! Banging random strangers is a far cry from being in a relationship where you are supposed to be able to trust. Not saying both parties are behaving, but damm.
I would not get married just to have to keep using condoms. I generally would hope to have another child. I know for a FACT how many women certain hobbyists are with because they brag about it everyday...it would only be speculation with a civie guy. If I have to have a blood test before I fk the man I plan to marry every week, I am not going to bother.