May I Have a Break?

Thank you all for the wonderful advice. Skylar and London, I like your ideas about waking up early to shower/get ready as time to gather my morning thoughts.

Am-A-Pleaser:
Every single one of my vacation dates have been like you described. My gentleman friends usually had meetings all day so I had time to take care of myself. This is the first time I've been asked on a date that was strictly vacation for us both...not a business trip for him. That's why I was so clueless and apprehensive, haha!

Our date isn't until New Year's Eve, so I still have plenty of time; I'll definitely report back! I've actually decided to casually mention once we are there, as things come up, what I want to do. I do NOT want to "Lay Down the Law" before we even take off. If I feel like escaping to the gym in the morning and then hit the sauna for a few hours before he wakes, I will. I'm not demanding and consider myself to be pretty reasonable, so I'm sure he won't see my requests as bitchy or intrusive. Well, I hope! haha! Originally Posted by jamais vu

The vacation date I went on with a lady, was just R&R for both of us. We went site-seeing, did some tourist stuff, some shopping, and stayed with each other nearly 24-7. She even joined me in the shower. It worked. We even took vacation photo's. She had her money up front and could spend it on anything she wanted. I paid for our meals, drinks, room, room service, just about everything. When we went shopping, she bought some things for herself. I bought some things for her, too.

It all worked because we were attracted to each other and our personalities matched. One tourist thing we did, I thought was a little cheezy, but she thought it was romantic. Turns out, being with her, it was romantic.

JV, go and enjoy your trip. And let us know how it turns out.

I don't know what else was said here, but yes - say you need - to do yoga/head time/whatever.

I usually state what I want/need and often that opens the door to what the other person needs too. Also when you're together a lot of the time a lot of people need some time alone. If I'm really into the person I don't - but a lot of people do.


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A trip like this should be with someone you feel comfortable with and you would go with him even if there was no money involved. Originally Posted by shorty

Dream on.

Hate to say it....but WORD!!!!

A trip like this should be with someone you feel comfortable with and you would go with him even if there was no money involved. Originally Posted by shorty

Dream on. Originally Posted by Leah Ireland

Thank YOU, Lea! Saves me sometime tonight.

Two words; Mandalay Bay Spa...ok, that's three! you can pay a reasonable day rate even if you are not staying in that casino, and melt away your thoughts and cares for 2-3 hours idling in the jacuzzi (there are 4, all different temps) the fabulous steam room, or just sitting and reading a magazine. They have a wonderful room in which to pull yourself together to hit the casinos again...tell him you will meet him at a lounge in the Mandalay looking and feeling like a million bucks. Every guy in the place will be jealous he's the one with you. Have fun!!

Dream on. Originally Posted by Leah Ireland

Right?? Sometimes people seem to forget this is our Business!!!

Actually this is something that I have never though about since in absolute majority of my travel dates the Gentleman needed couple of hours a day to tend to HIS business affairs.

Generally, if someone can afford to fly a companion in for couple of days or to travel with her on mini vacation, they rarely can afford to completely disconnect from work.

So when I travel with my patrons I use the time they need for their business as "recharge" time for myself.

My advise would be to discuss with him what are his expectation are. Does he anticipate that he will have to conduct conference calls/work/check in with his office/etc? If yes, can you use this time for your "alone time" or are you expected to stay in room waiting.

As unfair as it may sound, when you are on 24h date, you are ON for 24 hours. You either can or can not do this.

May be you could discuss with him amended compensation to reflect that you need X number of hours for yourself per day?

Hope this helps

Lina

a real GF is always excited to be with her man, right?

No. I don't think anyone can be excited to be with someone 24/7 - no matter what. But when it comes to a situation like this, it needs to be built into the rate and known up front for sure. You can't spring it at the resort, or even after the deposit.

Your boss should be with someone you feel comfortable with and you would work for him even if there was no money involved. Originally Posted by shorty

^^^That's what I took from this anyway

this topic has been beaten to death! the answer is NO!!!!

New mod on the scene, I see. Surprised St. Chris didn't notify me.

I have taken several ladies (doubles) to LV and each trip offered them a full day at the spa or shopping, or even a night out on the town, letting them make arrangements through my Casino Host. And quite honestly, there are times that I couldn't hang with them (late, late night's on the town) so I would respectfully depart and let them stay out as late as they liked ... so long as they returned to tell me all about their escapades!

My advice and/or thoughts? If you really want to be with him 24/7 then do it ... if not, then communicate your wants or needs upfront when he first approaches you about the trip, not during the trip because, if he starts the trip with the expectation (and belief) that you will be there 24/7 and then you ask, at some point, for some "me time" ... only one of two things are likely, he is confident and cool enough to say okay, and he'll see you later or he see's the request in a negative way and it may just ruin the rest of the trip ... every guy is different ... and it sounds like you know him pretty well, and you should already have an idea as to how he will react ...

And while some may disagree, if he wants you with him 24/7 for 3-days straight, I would think that the fine line between the "hobby" world and "real" world might be an issue (at least in his mind) ... for some that works, for others it won't.

I've returned...with new ideas...

I didn't really enjoy myself. I had an inkling before the trip he was a bit on the clingy side, but I had no real concept of the scope of his neediness. He was offended when I would take showers alone or wake up early to check my messages.

Within discovering this upon the first few minutes of our trip, I knew even the mere mention of alone time longer than a trip to the toilet was out the question. I felt stifled and captive...I would not repeat.

But with every negative experience, I try to learn. This one was no different. Looking back, I realize I should have communicated with him more about the type of vacationer and companion he is. Me, I'm pretty chill. I like to lounge, sip drinks, have good food and kinda take things slow. I also require time to check in back home with my family and friends.

Him? The complete opposite. He's going full speed from the time he wakes up at 6:30AM to the time he passes out between 12-1AM. We have nothing in common! If had I taken more time to figure him out, I would have realized that and spared myself a weekend.

I might get flack for this post, but I felt like I needed to chime in. So there you go. haha!

JV

JV- sorry to hear of your experience. I hope your next opportunity for a trip isn't with such an asshole!

I think the compatibility of the two individuals matters the most with these type of extended dates.

I just returned from my own trip and it was fantastic. She's the only "provider" I would have extended such an invitation. I at times offered her multiple opportunities for solitude but she really didn't take me up on it. We just had way too much fun with together. It was quite a memorable trip and mutually very enjoyable.

The client isn't an asshole, he is just different from the companion. She is correct in saying that she didn't do her due diligence before she committed. No crime, just experience.