Really?? I respect (very much) several of the ladies I've seen. A few I know well enough to trust as much as most civilian friends. Any relationship beyond P4P is not feasible, but that's because of other circumstances rather than because they're not "worthy."
Originally Posted by Chevalier
Agreed. Because of what happened, I got into therapy to try and find a way to keep that from happening to myself again (maybe I did something wrong.) What I learned about myself is that I had never learned to compartmentalize my life, work, etc. If I make a friend in the hobby (a real friend) That friend must choose between being apart of my real life and never going BCD, or staying hobby friends and I will still see him BCD. The separation of the two has saved me mentally. Learning about boundries was wonderful, especially here.
I've also found (for myself alone) I will never take a mate or have a boyfriend while I am still in the hobby. I am not capable of both. It wouldn't be fair to the boyfriend because I throw everything I am into my work and when I get home I don't want to do anything with anyone else.
You guys are going to love this but the evil woman in my story is the exact same woman several in this thread were screwed by. Some of these women make it a career. Once a guy falls for a girl and she fucks him to his hearts content, she OWNS his wallet. This woman had like 6 or 7 on the line at once. Never trust a provider for nothing. She must earn that trust over time. If anything is ever meant to be, it will happen over time. So relax. Treat it as the wonderful fantasy it is... and have AWESOME sex along the road.
BTW, I recommend all providers get therapy at least once a month. It really does help and you learn things that will fascinate you.