I like wearing a strap-on to train throats, and for that reason I don't have ginormous toys (8 inches harnessed is my largest).
I have certainly played with suitors who can't get enough of the long, long toys in the back, and I know how to deliver the right strokes with those toys, but that kind of play is BYO.
For me, when it comes time to bend a man over, I prefer hand-held toys like the Manhandler, Njoy steel wands or even some of the hand blown glass wands out there. Having the hilt in my hand offers so much more...
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