... but why sully anyone's reputation without knowing the whole story?
Originally Posted by Fancyinheels
The list of perceived justifications as to "why" is almost endless all the way to "just because"! And as someone who has a reasonably extensive history of dissecting "stories" I can say with a decent level of reliability that RARELY ... IF EVER ... is "the whole story" known by the person relating the alleged events.
And the REASONS are rather extensive, but not as long as the list for the motivation (the "why"), and the continuum is from an outright fabrication of an event that never happened to a failure to be in a position to know EVERYTHING that happened and/or EVERYTHING that was said at the time.
It is "interesting" though the lip service paid to the "purpose" of the board as being a forum to find INFORMATION about people upon which a decision can be made involving the exchange of consideration for companionship ... as opposed to the reality!
EVERYONE, including you Fancy, who does not speak up each and every time false and/or misleading information about members on here is published is complicit in the dissemination of that false and/or misleading information, which encompasses the baseless and speculative allegations about posters in here.
So don't get all Ms. Mother Hen and "holier than though," because when you keep quiet for your own personal gain, status, or whatever reason on this board you are contributing to that culture, whether the allegations are made in a public forum or the sinister environment of a backroom where the subject of the accusation is unaware and unable to respond.
If I were to come and visit you and in that process of getting your "acceptance" (screening) you obtain "necessary" and/or "appropriate" information (RW) as you deem fit to make the arrangements, regardless of the outcome, you should keep your mouth shut (or fingers still on the keyboard) with regard to the personal information (RW) you learned either before or during the appointment, EXCEPT to the extent that LE would need that information to prosecute a crime of which you were a victim by that person during that contact.
I have the same obligation back at you, particularly when it is the type of information that anyone with 1/2 an ounce of common sense would KNOW, or ought to KNOW, might reveal your real world identity OR information you have specifically asked not to disclosed for any purpose. No exceptions.
I learned in junior high guys talk shit about their sex lives, and then I learned in high school the girls did also! Then they whined when their "reputation" was "tarnished"! It's called "immaturity."