I think with adoptive parents, they dont have the same connection with their adoptive kids as in comparison to giving birth and raising them on your own. So its easier for them to take them out of their lives
Originally Posted by Sweet Mandy
Honey, this just about broke my heart. I met my birth father when I was 18 years old and he died when I was 31 - I was never what he'd imagine a daughter of his to be like - I married a farmer first and a biker the second time.
He more or less disowned me and banned me from his death-bed & funeral. My steps recognized his wishes while he was alive, but made sure that I was there for the funeral. They've kept in touch with me all these years and while we're not what you'd call close, we are family-ish.
I tell you that to say this: Some people are just cold-hearted and they carry their f*cked up mores and beliefs til their deathbeds. What
YOU are has nothing to do with it, it is what
THEY are.
In response to the original question, kinda, my daughter toyed with the idea of become a dancer when she was 18. I didn't like it, of course.
My response? I told her to move away if she was going to do it, and don't bring it home. I also reassured her that she would always be welcome at home.
As parents all we can do is raise our kids the best we can and give them wings. The decisions they make as adults are theirs. We don't have to like the decisions, but we can't stop loving and supporting them, if not their choices.
I wish you happiness and love, Mandy.