OK now my big head is really beginning to spin (where's my Tylenol?) You already had this situation analyzed to the nth degree why did you come on this board and ask guys for second opinions who know nothing about your family situation or history?
Originally Posted by fortwortholdguy
Is what I've written really that opaque? Obviously my communication skills must be poor given that TexTushHog's has seconded your post, so I must concede.
All I was trying to say is this: it is because of this forum, and the comments made here that I have been able to do the "nth degree" analysis.
Or put another way: this analysis is less that 72 hours old and a direct result of my interaction with this forum.
Remember, the question was asked in post #1 on Friday morning, "I'm at a loss, any ideas on what should I do"
Then the answers came:
Gonzo DFW
CoHorn
Toasted
daveindallas
MAX
tracibrooks
Torito
Sir Lancehernot
Lisa0302
xperimant
Sweet Heather
ElisabethWhispers
txcwby6
M Star
and others
They were unanimous that I should run for cover, why? Because of the feelings of my daughter. In the 32nd post in the thread I wrote:
Honestly the points made about my daughter's trust & respect are ones that hadn't come to my mind, but should have. She's been a daddy's girls from day one, even more so after her mother, my wife, died. To a large degree I'm still the Dad who can do no wrong, I can't afford to lose that.
Originally Posted by DFK Hunter
Please understand the very
notion of how the disclosure of a sexual relationship with Jane could affect my bond with my daughter
had not occurred to me.
The question was answered and for that I am truly, truly thankful. Everything after my post #32 is just that, aftermath. Letting everyone know what happened as a result of
the decision they helped me make.
Remember, you challenged my decision to pass on Jane. In effect your argument was that in the Grand Scheme of things, getting high quality pussy beats regrets later, and that come grandkid time all would be forgiven/forgotten. (If I have mischaracterized your argument I apologize.)
And my response gave you a headache. (and I'm sorry for that too..)
So we have come full circle, and I apologize for the confusion I created.
At least, hopefully, the apology is communicated correctly.