Amen! I can't imagine any decent guy being ok with his SO being a provider. Its a lady's decision if that is the kind of risk she is willing to take but if I were her man I'd be goddamned if I'm okay with accepting a risk she chooses to partake in. NO SIR. That's where the line would be strong and long. If she chose to be a d**g dealer would that be ok too?? Both can make u a lot of money fast but you can also land your a$$ in the pokey or worse with one bad move. Its a very risky lifestyle and any man that is okay with his SO doing it needs to go see a doctor and get his balls reattached right after he retains a lawyer to sue the sh*t out of the retard who conditioned him to think that way! Good grief!
Maybe it really is just a money thing then because it sure as hell lacks any aspect of concern or well-being for the person you love.
And as we all know: Benefits enjoyed off someone else's p***y are pimp benefits.
Originally Posted by thathottnurse
You know, while I agree with this, as a single woman, I would not want the man that I love to judge me for this part of my life. I would not be in this industry if I were not single. I'm an intelligent woman with multiple skill sets, and there are other ways to make money for me. While I'm enjoying the variety this life brings me, it will never have to be my primary source of income.
So what do we call it when the woman is NOT in this industry, and she works/makes more money than him, and he either doesn't make very much money and/or isn't aspiring to anything in his own life? Is he a pimp, a moocher, low life good-for-nothing? To delve into this would be to delve into the psychology of co-dependent people, self esteem, and the essence of what real love is. Who are we really to say what's wrong or right about someone else's situation?
When we consider the relationship between a woman who happens to be a Companion and a man who has a vested interest in her success and safety, a plethora of questions (mostly negative) pop up to those on the outside looking in.
I'll agree that a lot of women are not good with business. And I don't think I can say what I want to without sounding judgmental, and relay that I REALLY am okay with the differences between certain personalities, so bear with me and I apologize in advance if this hits home/offends anyone. But for some women, relying on their feminine wiles is something they would do if they weren't in the industry. That would include moving a boyfriend in to help pay the bills, or having sugar daddies, or even having babies and getting married. You don't know how many times I've heard civilian women say 'girl, times are hard, I'm lonely. I just need to find me a man with a good job and just submit.' We're not going to even talk about that aspect of things. A friend of mine was telling me about how women in her country would say, 'I just want to find a wealthy man and make him happy' in the accent of her nationality. While I understand this is the basis for "The Femme", in these modern times, it is a lazy, passive, unambitious way to look at success or having a comfortable life.
But when we think of pimps, we think of him coercing some lazy, young girl with no direction into selling her body for money. It's Friday. She ain't got no job. She doesn't have anything else to do. If she had her way, she wouldn't educate herself or work, and would be high half the time. She's going to have sex with random dudes for 420 or a place to crash for the night anyway so sure, why not.
I've met a woman who had pimps before going independent and the amount of organization and business sense she came away with after leaving that situation was uncanny. Though she was smart, and had the ability to take care of her own business, she has sought pimps after her independence as well. It puts me in the mind of that scene in The Mack where Goldie was in bed with his first girl, and she was like, 'it's hard out here, you know? I need a man to help me, to guide me..." and she breaks down on his shoulder. You would think after all the dramatic things that have happened to her (including abuse) during her life with/under the tutelage of pimps that she wouldn't want any part of that. Regardless of the money she bragged about making him, I failed to see any positive reason to have a man involved in this business.
Now the real question behind the OP's question (for me at least) is to the men: can you stand to be more thoughtful? I think that most men would not like to ponder the reasons why the women they meet are available to them. Too much emotion. I know some of you guys are daredevils, and the riskier the exchange the better. But that doesn't mean you can't put thought into your selection process beyond the physical. Unless you've got nothing to lose (this is the reason a guy would shoot a woman over $150) and if that's the case, I don't want to meet you anyway. Convenience should take a back seat to lowering your risk of negative encounters. The level of risks a woman is willing to take to meet you is an indication of so much: naivety, bad management and lack of industry education, all things that can spell bad news for you and her. Please don't find yourself ignoring the signs that a woman is in trouble just to satiate a hard-on.
But taking the time to consider the impact that you personally have on her as a client is a great way to start.