Consideration for the betrayed wife

Sketch, he knows your reality better than you do. He knows everyone's reality better than they do. Just ask him. If he would stick to what he actually knows he would be far less annoying--and people might actually take him seriously.

Contrary to your view, I truly love my wife.

I'm also not going to crush my wife and break her will by telling her I'm cheating on her. Originally Posted by sketchball82

All you married guys...take note of what you are...right here...your champion supporter explains EXACTLY what you are...

You love your wives...truly...so instead of simply NOT cheating on her, you're just NOT going to tell her you're doing it...all the while KNOWING how what you're doing affects your wives...

That's love alright...pure, unconditional love...you're right, don't know how I missed it all this time...

Fucking hypocritical, scared, selfish pussies...every one of these guys...EVERY single one of them...

P.S.-OT, I know exactly what their reality is...because they tell me. They're married, and they're cheating on their wives...what other "reality" is there?

P.P.S.-The fact that sketchball is SO angry just shows that he honestly knows he's doing something massively wrong, and it's the contradiction of loving his wife yet doing something so hurtful to her without her knowing it, that is eating him up...so he runs from confronting it...as they all do...

He is from Detroit and really pissed that he is stuck with a house that is depreciating daily.

Wakeup, you may already know this and you are just "fucking" with people...
Or maybe this is just my opinion and you just won't be able to "get it"...

Cheating is no one persons fault... it is society who has taught us and ingrained in us that when we are in a relationship, we are not suppose to be physical with anyone else. Society is wrong, not the one doing the cheating and not the wives for not understanding.
Loving your spouse and being life partners with her, should not have anything to do with whether or not you go get a blow job from the new blonde girl on the board.

He is from Detroit and really pissed that he is stuck with a house that is depreciating daily. Originally Posted by pyramider

Actually a suburb that's quite wealthy, but I still lol'ed.

Is it possible that some view sex as a separate action than love?
Perception, I have mine - you have yours.
Should you bring up everything that you disagree with? Where does the line start and where does the line stop?

Chris Brown may be far from perfect, but he had this one line in this one song, "so please don't judge me, and I won't judge you. Cuz it can get ugly, before it gets beautiful."

Just because you think one of my rights is a wrong doesn't make it a wrong,
Maybe in your eyes, but you're not me. And I'm not you. So, back to perception..

Loving your spouse and being life partners with her, should not have anything to do with whether or not you go get a blow job from the new blonde girl on the board. Originally Posted by Mary Ann

Is it possible that some view sex as a separate action than love? Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie

You two are right, and I have absolutely no problem separating the two...AS LONG as the wife knows he's doing it, and agrees to it...

When they got married, she went into it expecting him to not cheat on her...nothing has changed in that respect...so if he has a talk with her and they both decide to not be exclusive, more power to them...

Unfortunately for both of you...almost none of the asshole pussies replying here have made such an arrangement with their wives...they're doing it behind their backs...because they're scared little boys, and feel horrible about what they're doing to their wives and don't want to confront it, while being selfish and not sacrificing their marriage at the same time...

That's my problem...having sex with people you're not married to has nothing to do with it...

Wake up, you sure do a wonderful job at one thing - generalizing.

My question of where does it start and where does it stop.. If I think a man is hot, must I tell my husband? If I have a massage by a gay man that gives me the tingles, must I tell my husband? What is it's a straight man? If a guy brushes against my boobies and my left nipple turns in to a headlight, must I confess? What about if they both do? If I fantasize about Kevin James (oh, boy... ) shall I be banned from watching King of Queens? Or maybe I should just offer a hall pass for him to crush on Stacey Karosi.

If I go to Thunder from Downunder, is it ok to watch? Should I not take the VIP experience and get a photo? Or is that ok until he puts his arm around me? Or does it only become an issue if he were to touch a boobie? My waist? My hip? Where does it start?

My question of where does it start and where does it stop.. Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie

Um...how about when you're fucking another man behind your husband's back while you're married...and vice versa...

Why was that question so hard to figure out the answer to?

all pussies

don't get married or tell your wife ur gonna cheat.

and you got kids even worst my goodness

big pussies

how can you bring up kids about respect, honesty and so on

and you cheat on your wife

on we go pussies

Um...how about when you're fucking another man behind your husband's back while you're married...and vice versa...

Why was that question so hard to figure out the answer to? Originally Posted by Wakeup

Ok, so it's only once you start fucking? Oral sex is ok?

Ok, so it's only once you start fucking? Oral sex is ok? Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie

These guys are on a hooker board, talking about having sex with whores...anything they're doing here, in their reviews, is cheating on their wives...and you know it...

Are you deliberately being obtuse? If you have a point, you better get to it...because you're not helping your argument...

Wakeup, you may already know this and you are just "fucking" with people...
Or maybe this is just my opinion and you just won't be able to "get it"...

Cheating is no one persons fault... it is society who has taught us and ingrained in us that when we are in a relationship, we are not suppose to be physical with anyone else. Society is wrong, not the one doing the cheating and not the wives for not understanding.
Loving your spouse and being life partners with her, should not have anything to do with whether or not you go get a blow job from the new blonde girl on the board. Originally Posted by Mary Ann

The thing is that while you may blame society for shaming what most consider cheating, a person who cheats made a decision to do so without their partner's consent.

The point I believe WakeUp is trying to make (correct me if I'm wrong) is that the focus is not on the sex act, but the dishonesty involved of going behind one's partner's back.

Ok, so it's only once you start fucking? Oral sex is ok? Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie

Sure there are some gray areas but I'm generally of the idea that if you would want to know if your partner did it, then you should probably inform them of it if you yourself do it.

If there's any question then you and your partner should have a conversation about it.

The point I believe WakeUp is trying to make (correct me if I'm wrong) is that the focus is not on the sex act, but the dishonesty involved of going behind one's partner's back. Originally Posted by jbravo_123

And that's true. But who honestly can say they've never lied to their partner about when the credit card payment was sent in, how much they spent at the casino, how far the lap dance when, what time they put the kids to bed, or what they had for dinner when they were on that diet? I would argue the dishonesty concern is 100% why "cheating" wrong beyond the aggrandized social stigma, but I would go a step further and say most (certainly not all, but the vast majority) have lied to their spouse about something, and many even do so habitually. That doesn't make it right, but it does mean that most people are guilty of the same dishonesty. Naturally if that is true, the hypocrisy of person A pointing at person B for something they're both guilty of is palpable.