For someone that felt bad about how people reacted you forgot a lot of details lol. It wasn't his GF it was an escort he had seen multiple times. The issue was twofold....first that he introduced said escort to his wife in the wife's home..whilst flat out lying about who she (escort) was to the wife....and also that this happened at the request of the escort....meaning it wasn't just him that caught the heat, it was her too. Still think that was a shitty thing for both of them to do...time hasn't changed that.
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Originally Posted by Camille
First I did not feel bad, I was puzzled is all.
Second I did not forget
my details of
my point in
my prior post io Rudyard.
Which was was:
Well if we try and put someone in our shoes instead of theirs then it probably was a shitty thing to do.
I know if I did it it would be a shitty thing in my mind but that don't make it shitty just because someone else does it. I am not in their shoes.
That seems to be the jest of the answers from this thread, yet not so much from some of the same posters in the other.
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Originally Posted by WTF
Putting them in
your shoes seems to be what you are doing Camille.
My point was to put yourself in
their shoes. Not with
your mindset but with
theirs.
If you can do that it is much easier to predicate future behavior by others, after all we should be able to predicate our own for the most part. For example I do not see myself shooting someone for sport. A psychopath would be a different story. To keep from getting shot a by a psychopath it might be a wise idea for me to at least be able to pretend that there are other personalities other than mine.
You are right , I do not remember the details but I think I remember the jest and to that I was trying to make the above point.
In this current exercise many are able to put themselves in one another's shoes because they have been there but some seem to think it will
never work because it did not work for
them while in those shoes, the first trick is putting yourself in a pair of shoes that you have never been in. Of course IMHO.
That is what the gent from NE (wasn't he from the NorthEast?) was , I think, trying to get us to do. We got caught up on the lying part which and I fully agreed with him about when he countered that we all lie.
Lastly, if I recall, his intentions did not seem bad. He seemed to want a fairy tale ending.
So nothing has changed the way I feel about the situtation.....people have a very hard time putting themselves in others shoes unless they have walked them and even then they tend to think other should walk like they do in them.
The second trick is not only putting yourself in another shoes that you have never been in but also in their mindset at the time.
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Originally Posted by Guilty Pleasures
Originally Posted by WTF
