I am so sorry for you, Sistine..
To me, it makes sense to allow all Hobbyists, contracting a Providers services to be show the same respect. With some, it seems that they can only view women in a derogatory way.
There is so much disrespect shown on this site. It makes me sad to think that these people are adults.
And I am sure that it will be said to you if you use your husband's account in any way, it will most likely get deactivated. I think I read that in one of the Guidelines that were quoted along the way.