Falling in love with your provider.

"If" and that's a big if...I were to ever get married again...it would have to be to a retired hooker/whore...as there would be no judgement from her because I had been a whorefucker...nor me judging her for being a hooker...

Plus...civilians are just fucking boring to me now...

SNL - out Originally Posted by SNL9933

Dude you just fkin nailed it.... You pretty much summed up how I feel about the matter. Hell, I didn't even tell her to get out of the biz, that's her choice to make and hers alone.

So you can't turn a ho into a housewife? Can you turn a whorefucker into a husband?
The hypocrisy displayed here is impressive.[/QUOTE]

wouldn't the term be a providerfucker. I would think a whorefucker would give it for free.


The answer is yes in my situation. Being divorced and no gf. The problem I see with women is.......


Women don't know what they want!!!!

When they do get what they think they want, then they realize it wasn't all it was cracked up to be. Then it's off to something new.

At this stage in life (for me) is, why get married again. Women think that that piece of paper somehow is going to change things. You either both love one another and want to be together or not. Most older guys probably feel the same way and have gone thru the same thing. Example.. you find who you think is, the one. sex is great but after time she doesn't want to do the same things anymore or as frequently.

So my question would be... if I could be a husband/mate.. could you quit being a provider and get a real job? Obviously I couldn't afford a lifestyle for both of us.

"If" and that's a big if...I were to ever get married again...it would have to be to a retired hooker/whore...as there would be no judgement from her because I had been a whorefucker...nor me judging her for being a hooker...
Originally Posted by SNL9933

If I were to ever get married again, and I will, I will avoid judgement by doing what people do - LYING. Lol. And I will expect and appreciate that same courtesy from any of my future husbands.

Falling in love with a provider?

Been there. Done that. Have the t shirt.

Ended badly with lots of hurt feelings on both sides.

Wouldn't reccomend it. Sure as hell won't allow it to happen again.

On the bright side nearly 10 years later we are still very close friends, we communicate almost ever week, our personal and hobby lives have crossed without incident, we still see each other in a hobby environment fairly often, and sex with her is still the best I've ever had.

There has been an awful lot written about this on the boards and I agree with most of the posts advising against. Because of some of the elements of hobby participation relative to lady and gent which have been dicussed before ad nauseum the odds of it working are stacked against it working IMHO.

If I had it to do over again would I do things differently? I honestly do not know. I think it happened because of a unique chemistry we have that I still feel today although now that I can see things from a more detached point of view I realize a SO relationship would have probably failed for a number of reasons.

But then what do they say? "Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."

Probably true.

If I were to ever get married again, and I will, I will avoid judgement by doing what people do - LYING. Lol. And I will expect and appreciate that same courtesy from any of my future husbands. Originally Posted by Lauren Mayfair

Lie to me baby...oh yeah...just like that...a little to the left...oh damn, lie just like that...keep going...don't stop...

I've been married. We never did that. ^^^
I feel a little slighted actually.


So you can't turn a ho into a housewife? Can you turn a whorefucker into a husband?
The hypocrisy displayed here is impressive. Originally Posted by Lauren Mayfair

Yes.

I have the same philosophy here as I do pretty much across the board: It's your life. Live it exactly how you want to. Because if you live your life according to someone else's rules and reach the end of your days and you're unhappy with how things turned out, no one can issue you a refund. As far as we know, you only get one shot at life.

So the rules say you shouldn't fall in love with a provider/client. If love is a goal in your life, why wouldn't you give it a shot wherever you might find it? Screw the rules. It might work out.. it probably won't. But that's true even if you met him/her in church.

It is your life. And if you start letting others dictate what you're allowed to or supposed to do, you're going to wake up 80 years old and pissed off that you never did anything exciting. Getting hurt is part of the human experience. Hiding from it your whole life gets you a really boring existence.

All that being said, no, I've never fallen in love with a client. I've felt serious fondness. That's about it. But I have a weird habit of not falling in love with sexual partners. I fall in love with my best friends. I don't need a sexual relationship to be in love with someone.

I fall "in love" with every one who sucks and fucks me for 60 minutes...then I'm out the door. That, my friends, is the beauty of the hobby. No muss, no fuss.

Since Lauren & I are beasties (sp?) can I be the litterbox bearer? Originally Posted by Dorian Gray

Spelling corrected.

Nycole, just thinking. When you get back from abroad. We can fall in love. Break-up and make-up all in the same session.
The making up part is always much more passionate.
We could even have a grudge session later for all the confusion from the first time. Sounds like real life love to me. Not knowing if your Frank or Ernest. Just opening the door to test the water after the true love wares off.

^^^^
Nope. Looked it up in the Oxford dictionary.
Bestie- noun: informal, a persons best friend.

So the rules say you shouldn't fall in love with a provider/client. If love is a goal in your life, why wouldn't you give it a shot wherever you might find it? Screw the rules. It might work out.. it probably won't. But that's true even if you met him/her in church.

There is only 1 hooker that I honestly 'thought' we could have been something more than just a whore/whorefucker relationship.....but....it lasted for a quick minute and was ruined.

What would Mel do? lol

OH YES! I have this one guy who I see more as a friend, but he is in love with me. I think over time they develop some form of relationship. I see it more of a deep friendship. Don't get me wrong...he's a sweetheart. He just got out of his marriage and etc. I think he is just lonely and wants extra attention. It happens. It all depends what the situation is, how long they've known/seen you, and how they treat you and you treat them.

OH YES! I have this one guy, Antichrist666, who I see more as a friend, but he is in love with me. I think over time they develop some form of relationship. I see it more of a deep friendship. Don't get me wrong... Antichrist666 is a sweetheart. He just got out of his marriage and etc. I think Antichrist666 is just lonely and wants extra attention. It happens. It all depends what the situation is, how long they've known/seen you, and how they treat you and you treat them. Originally Posted by Jemma Martin

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