How has hobbying affected your RW social skills?

THN,

Please remember that Zanzy works withe a focus group of one.

THN,

Please remember that Zanzy works withe a focus group of one. Originally Posted by pyramider

maybe the same number of people on that NCAA debate team.

I will admit sometimes I find myself looking at RW women through a soft focus escort lens. If I'm walking in the mall sometimes I'm thinking to myself I bet that bitch is an escort, I wonder how much? I'm pricing RW women now based on appearance.

Sad Originally Posted by Zanzibar789

That's because this will fk your mind just as well as your body. Porn was nothing but gateway for me. Jeez...what's next.

I junked RW dating long time ago. I just see strippers, sugar babies, etc.

It's the other way around for me. I have always been an outgoing and assertive person in real life, at my corporate jobs, and always have a lot of friends outside of here. Having this personality and communication skills has helped me in the hobby.

If I'm walking the malls wondering how much a civie would likely charge it means the hobby has made me objectify women to some degree. I guess in a sense it's no different than fantasizing about all the hot women you come in contact with. Maybe it is normal after all

normal Originally Posted by Zanzibar789

normal is relative

different things are normal to different people/groups.

just not the ideal word in my opinion. I do agree hobbiers probably see things differently if that's what you're aiming for.

If I had me a kept woman, she would have it good. I would give her a Lexus to drive (not one of those E class pieces of shit). I would give her spending money. I would take her on vacations. I would take care of all of her relatives. I would build her a house. I would feed and clothe her young'uns. I would pay for their college education...........all I would ask for in return is she suck my dick when I want her to........feed me when I want to be fed.........and STFU when I give her that look.

Does that count as RW?

Hassen't made me a more socially adept guy. I don't think my social skills were that good to begin with.

I am not George Cluny handsome. I am not a man of power or wealth. The quality of my wit and charm is disputed. The Hobby is the only way I can manage to enjoy the intimate company of attractive women half my age . . .ever.

I can't say that much as changed with me. Except being able to pay my bills on time....
I still love having sex and fucking just as much as ever and being able to try new things. My RW life is no different. Just depends on the personality of the person I'm with if they get to see my wild side.

Although in RW life....I fuck MORE out in public instead of BCD. As hobbyist don't do public.

If I had me a kept woman, she would have it good. I would give her a Lexus to drive (not one of those E class pieces of shit). I would give her spending money. I would take her on vacations. I would take care of all of her relatives. I would build her a house. I would feed and clothe her young'uns. I would pay for their college education...........all I would ask for in return is she suck my dick when I want her to........feed me when I want to be fed.........and STFU when I give her that look.

Does that count as RW? Originally Posted by dearhunter

Does a one-legged Pope with a watertight ass shit in circles in the woods when chased by a bear?

I never had any RW Social skills. I don't pick up on social Queues. The only difference now is when I make a terrible joke and grab a tit, a little money stops me from getting beat up.

Maybe I'm kidding.

For better or for worse?

This is not an infomercial but was just thinking about how this P4P business can make us Fellas lazy on the RW dating scene. Being social and able to communicate properly is very important in avoiding being a social misfit.

Does relying exclusively on the hobby rob you of those normal RW social skills? if you don't know how to talk to a woman you'll just say fuck it I will just pay for some conversation or throw money at it. If you're going this exclusivity route I would say just make sure you're also practicing your conversation skills with your provider because you will need them in other settings as well.

One thing I'm definitely working on since I added hobbying to my modus operandi is being fair in my views. I will admit sometimes I find myself looking at RW women through a soft focus escort lens. If I'm walking in the mall sometimes I'm thinking to myself I bet that bitch is an escort, I wonder how much? I'm pricing RW women now based on appearance.

Sad Originally Posted by Zanzibar789

I think the hobby has made me a better communicator because everyone that I see is different from the last or the first so I pick up a lot on the dynamics of efficient conversation and I really get a kick out of it because some providers can be awfully cool and quirky in an interesting way. I think a guy bullshits a lot to a woman in the real world because he wants to impress her which would lead to some kind of emotional or physical involvement if the moment is right and if the guy is savvy enough to interest the woman through humor and charm that let her proverbial guard now. I don't have to do that with a provider. I know what I am going to get more or less so the pressure to please is off of my back which of course relaxes me further into free-flowing, honest conversation.

LOL, but sometimes I think when I do converse with non-providing women in an unassuming manner they give me the impression that I want friendship only because I am not putting on the charm in full throttle mode. It's not really the case but because I have already got my fix from a provider, so I am not bent out of hell shape by trying to peacock my way into self-advertisement in search of a mate or play partner. I suppose it's damned if you do and damned if you don't kind of situation here.

This hobby got me accustomed to being a single man again.

When I first started dating, out of a 4 year relationship, my ass was very gullible. Now I see straight through their bullshit and don't waste time on those that don't deserve it.

It hasn't made me lazy, it has made me sharper and know what I want out of a relationship. Originally Posted by frankocean187

I think the hobby also keeps your priorities straight, mostly that you have to take care of your needs first before anyone else's. It balances you out if you will. I could see men getting into serious relationships that really can cause some disruption in their daily lives which requires immediate attention and will eventually drain the hell out of them emotionally; jadedness feeling becomes more present. Only if I could find cooler people in Houston or experience a cooler vibe would I feel more comfortable being on my own.

I still haven't figured out the RW dating thing yet. With the last guy that took me to dinner, at the end he pulled out his wallet. I automatically pulled my hair back in a ponytail and considerately asked if he was sure he wanted to do it there. He looked at me strangely. I was perfectly polite about it, so I'm still not sure what the problem was. Maybe I had something stuck in my teeth...