Adabear,
I understand your sentiments, but as you can see, different people have different ways of expressing themselves. Some may act respectfully, and others like jueveniles. I'm sometimes amused by the comments of some of the members myself. Especially, when they are condescending toward one of the ladies I know. In any case, they are conveying their experiences and their personalities at the same time. Since I'm a guy, I ignore the way that other guys say things. That is not to say that the ladies do. The ladies have their own forums (Poweder Puff Room) where they discuss asshole guys.
The ladies I have seen are more than capable of taking care of themselves. They will always have more choices than a 'rude' hobbyist, so don't let them bother you too much. You just have to ignore comments that offend you and let people be who they are. If it makes them happy to act like a teenager in a gym locker room, well some people just need to show their ass in public. Does this qualify as "public?" At the same time, they might equally believe you are an old tight ass that can't relax.
See how I offended everyone here except the ladies? I know how to kiss up too! ha ha