I know this may sound silly and F*&%ed up. I have been seeing this provider with good chemistry together, we had multiple sections, lunch dates, dinner dates, etc for about a less than a year. I cannot stop thinking about her lately, it is like emotionally attached to her.
I understand there are a lot of providers out there for me to get over it, but they are not all the same. I'm sure this subject may be brought up before, just couldn't find it.
Am I nuts? I know, I need to snap out of it, just want to know your thoughts.
Originally Posted by bonner111
This is easy to explain, your emotion is triggering your dopamine receptors to the max. Now, you are feeling that high. You can't stop it, that will drive you up and you will go farther.
I say, enjoy that rush because that won't last, your brain will not be able to sustain it. Don't hold back the feelings because when it goes away you will wonder why it doesn't give that high anymore.
While you're stuck in that state of mind, keep on going asking girls out (eccie, pof, bp, zoosk, etc) or you could just hang at a strip club and have fun with strippers.
What you said "but they are not all the same" is just your addicted to dopamine brain telling you to don't stop, keep these receptors connecting. You know that is not true, but hold on it for now and enjoy the rush.
When it is done, it is done, that high will go away. You will look for another girl who will give that rush again.
Same thing, the desire will drive you crazy, you will crave and that will drive you even crazier.
That happened to me in the past, but I was able to sort it out. It was a huge dopamine rush, she still calls me once every two weeks. She is one awesome girl, the prettiest girl in the club, I can't believe I got her to go to my place and do crazy wild sex. We got good chemistry too.
Let me tell you a story. My friend and I were having fun in a pub in another state/city, that night I sensed the girl has high probability and told my friend about the chance he could get friendly with her. He went to ask several questions, got good rapport with her and at the end of the night they went out and I just called Uber to drive me home. Next day, she started hanging out with us and it went on like that for another month. I then found out she was providing for many years now. Told me she had many serious relationships with men she met outside of work and men who did meet on provider websites. She has ginger/red hair and blue eyes, one smoking hot girl.
So, how that story relate to you, well, don't let this get you down, but there is a high chance she will fall in-love with you, but don't expect that love to be exclusive.
My advice: don't stop, keep dating girls.