Classic Pre-Planned Excuses

But after all that happened, in the end "she came clean" They talked it out and worked it out. HONESTY, which is what everyone has been saying all through the thread. The OP was looking for a way to lie his way out of it thinking we were going to back up his chickenshit behavior. This thread could have been done in 10 posts if he would have come to that realization. Originally Posted by H.Hardhat

I just have to laugh at all this. There's no reason to cheat on anyone. Just tell the other person you don't want an exclusive relationship and go have sex. If you are married or have kids, oh well, shoulda thought of that before doing that.

I don't worry about a bit of this because anyone I date knows point blank I'm having sex else where too and if they mind that then we don't have to date.

Being in love and exclusive is awesome if that's what you are into. If you can't keep it that way though, there's no sense in fighting it at all.

Maybe she already knows... Maybe you should of closed your email on the main computer. Maybe she realized there is a whole other world she didn't know about. Did she get angry? Sure but she is good at faking happy. She has had lots of practice. The perfect revenge? Her own profile, great sex and a growing bank account for the day you come home and she's gone. Just saying.... Nothing personal here

There's no reason to cheat on anyone. Just tell the other person you don't want an exclusive relationship and go have sex. If you are married or have kids, oh well, shoulda thought of that before doing that.

Being in love and exclusive is awesome if that's what you are into. If you can't keep it that way though, there's no sense in fighting it at all. Originally Posted by Stromprophet

I gotta agree with ya Strom, on all counts. OP wanted to be at home and love his wife and kids, but still cheat on her without hurting her feelings. I gotta admit, we all came down on him pretty hard, maybe too hard. But often, the truth hurts.
Monogamy can be a beautiful thing if both parties are dedicated to it. If you can't make that commitment, you shouldn't go there.