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Dear YummyDear Lurking in Texas,
I think I have become too attached to a provider. She knows all of the right buttons to push and I feel she has become addictive.
Lurking in Texas Originally Posted by tucson
Interesting subject: http://m.now.msn.com/sex-makes-peopl...-per-new-studyThey obviously have never had any soft tacos
Thoughts? Originally Posted by YummyMarie
Has anyone else realized they were dreaming and decided to take control of the situation? What did you decide to do with your power?Went to a world with a double sun and a black sand beach, woke up the next morning quite relaxed, with a smile, and a friend asking me if I had gone there again, cause she's seen it happen before.
Pray tell... Originally Posted by YummyMarie
Went to a world with a double sun and a black sand beach, woke up the next morning quite relaxed, with a smile, and a friend asking me if I had gone there again, cause she's seen it happen before. Originally Posted by Unique_CarpenterNow thats kinda cool actually. The second part about her seeing it happen before is a little confusing though.
I woke up ... to be more exact, forced myself to "wakeup". lol Originally Posted by fun2comeYou must have been having a bad dream then. I usually can't wake myself up though. Its quite annoying cause when I try to, my vision in my dream becomes obscured by the back of my eyelids. Like I become consciously aware of them being closed and unable to open them.
Now thats kinda cool actually. The second part about her seeing it happen before is a little confusing though. Originally Posted by YummyMarieIt's quite simple actually. On occasion, she watches me sleep, or wakes up before I do. I've woken up to see her smiling, and she asks where I've been, and I tell her. Sometimes I watch her. The last time I woke up to her brushing the sand off me.
Dear Lurking in Texas,This post fits your personality perfect
First of all, it sounds like she is doing her job well, and the industry justiceSo whomever she is, way to go!
I have many questions about your situation, but I will try to keep this concise.
It seems as if you have spent quite a bit of time with this lady, so naturally I would like to ask: Are you respectful of her time and she respectful of yours? Can you maintain her company on your budget or is this becoming too costly? If you can keep up with your visits monetarily and time-wise, I see no problem here. Has she brought up her financial needs more than once to you? If so, this may be sign that she is not satisfied with the exchange of time and compensation. While we enjoy our time with our ATF's, if we spend too much time with them at the expense of losing out on other full-paying sessions, resentment can start to creep in, and that can be a real turn-off. So be sure that you are both comfortable with your arrangement.
Is this more of a physical attachment or mental one? Do you see any other providers or his her spell so great that you have cast all other possibilities to the side? While each hobbyists is different and approaches the hobby with slightly different motivations, there are many ladies who are qualified to suit your physical needs, and fewer who will be suited to your intellectual/mental needs. So depending on your needs, are you still holding true to your initial (and developing) reasons for hobbying? If you have veered far from the reasons you started hobbying, I would be concerned. Though many hobbyists are highly motivated by pleasing the women they encounter, at the end of the day, the hobby should be about YOU, the consumer. If you have overly compromised or dismissed your own needs for a single lady, you may be getting into dangerous territory (for you and her both). Have you become preoccupied with thoughts of her between sessions (other than the passing physical memories)? Is this affecting your ability to lead a productive life away from her? If either of these apply decide what it is you are looking for at this point in your personal life. Perhaps, the hobby isn't enough (aka, you are looking for a long-term, uncompensated companion). Does it bother you when you see reviews of her by other hobbyists?
Do other hobbyists or providers come up in your conversations? Has she ever had to excuse herself on short notice or canceled on short notice more than once? Look for signs of distancing in your meetings and communication. When other hobbyists or "work" come up too often, this may be a polite reminder to you that this is still a business arrangement. The question I asked about excusing herself or canceling short notice can be a sign that she is actively prioritizing business and personal relationships. This is a healthy thing for a provider (not canceling/excusing, but prioritizing), but once again, it is a sign that this is merely a business transaction.
On the flip side, have either you or her ignored other REAL LIFE priorities to continue spending time together? In addition to things like being on a first name basis, do you talk intimately about personal feelings? Do either you or her share more than what would be considered professional information? Knowing the names of children or where she physically resides are an example. These can all be signs that you both are on the same page intimately. Or that one or both of you is behaving foolishly (meaning that if they are not serious about the other, they are not being considerate by sharing so much). All of this is relative to the people involved, however. I am known for being relatively open about my life, but at the same time, I do take measures to keep my real world information private from 99.9% of those whom I encounter in the industry.
Bottom line: Are you still hobbying for the reasons you set out to? If so, great. Are you able to keep up with your habits monetarily? If so, more power to you! Is your ATF satisfied with your arrangement or are there signs of resentment? Deal with this immediately. Are there signs of distancing? If so, revisit your arrangement, and scale back on the BFE. Have the two of your created a more intimate relationship, and if so, is that something that needs to be addressed? Or perhaps, you should just sit back, relax, and ENJOY THE RIDE
Kisses,
Marie Originally Posted by YummyMarie