You know, y'all keep talking like condoms are 100% effective. CONDOMS DO NOT PREVENT THE SPREAD OF HERPES. They don't prevent the spread of crabs, either. And yes, ladies, you can still get crabs even if you keep your cooter waxed bald and smooth as a baby's butt.
You can get the clap from a BBBJ (I should know, it happened to me about 6 years ago). You can have a condom break right as you're about to cum (happened about 7 years ago).
There is inherent risk in having sex. You can mitigate that risk by taking precautions. But please stop acting like the mitigating precautions you choose to take are the end-all be-all. Wearing a seat belt doesn't preclude you from getting injured in a car accident. Wearing a rubber doesn't preclude you from contracting an STI. NOT wearing a seat belt doesn't mean you'll die on the way to 7-11. Not wearing a rubber doesn't mean you instantly become a walking petri dish.
I've said it before and it bears repeating. Both Milfy and Vi are up front and honest about riding bare and liking man jam in the clam. But there are many providers out there who are open to riding bare, and hide the fact. THOSE providers are more dangerous than the ones who advertise BBFS. I can make an informed decision to NOT see a provider who advertises the fact that she likes it raw. But a provider who HIDES the fact that she took a creampie last night and now has the clap? I have no way of knowing. So if the rubber breaks, I'm screwed. FIV, then in her mouth, followed by BBBJ? I'm going to the clinic, burnt.
You can screen, visually, all you want. And yes, there are signs. Open sores. Whitish-yellow discharge. The odor of bacterial vaginosis. But a lot of people who are infected are asymptomatic. The provider who gargles a load of infected throat yogurt is just as much at risk as the one who's sitting pretty on an anal creampie. You stick your bare cock in either end and now you have to explain to your wife why she has to take antibiotics for YOUR UTI.
It's all a risk game. And the greater risk isn't from providers who openly bareback. The risk is for clients who make a decision about who to see without all of the information, like which providers offer BBFS as a YMMV, but keep it on the DL because they don't like the stigma it carries. So for those of you who give providers like Milfy and Vi a load of shit for being cum dumpsters, remember, YOU'RE the ones who ultimately put the community at risk because your attitude actively discourages providers who secretly bareback from being open about it.