Can Providers and Hobbyists be JUST FRIENDS?

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No, you pretty much want to nail them too.

You want to test the belief that she's your friend? Tell her you're unemployed. That'll introduce a reality check real fast. Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot
The mulch didn't fly then eh????

Fucking grounded whores.


(better to be the student than the teacher).

Time to switch sides hon. Then switch back.
One word... NO Originally Posted by LickHer
One word...NO...?
Back in the 60's I was told that one word was "PLASTICS".
To anserw the op question .. Yes.. you can be friends. I know there is a faction of hard core hobbyist and providers that will say no, but the folks in the hobby world are just people. Sure relationships blow up and go south.. This happens in the regular world as well. I have really enjoyed the ladies I have met in the hobby. A few meals and movies. some bowling. garage sales. A hospital visit, cooking. Aren't these things friends do? I am always polite and don't mix up where I am and what we are doing. I find I really like these gals as people. When we do have a session it is gfe that is gentle and caring. Their stories are so interesting and everybody likes to laugh.
I don't see a big difference in this and a lot of business relationships. Don't you as a business
take clients to golf or fishing. Don't you ocassionally find a client you hit it off with. Do you charge your client for every waking moment you are with them (lawyers excluded) ?
I am thankful for the ladies I have become friends with. Honestly I don't think this hobby has to
be reduced to its most porn like level to be enjoyed. You can be friends and have wonderful GFE sessions and catch a movie once in a while.
IMO,

If she is an active provider and he is an active hobbyist, acquaintance friends? yes, real true friends, no.

I do not pay to have sex with my friends and my friends do not require a donation for her time she spends with me.

Meeting through the hobby for the first time will tend to skew things a bit, not to mention, you never want someone you met through the hobby to be introduced to your RW life, nothing like holding something over your head not if, but when there is a falling out. While it may even work in the short term, and you can say you are friends with benefits, but the benefits are the provider will eventually be wanting money, something paid for or bought for her and the guy will be wanting sex from her.

Guys, if you think a provider is your friend and if you want to get hung up on or get no response from your email/text you send, contact that provider and tell her you would like to hang out with her one day, all day, cook out, watch a movie on TV, ect. and maybe go out to a club. Oh, by the way, you will not be giving her any money or gifts for coming over or her time spent with you, when you watch the movie on TV, no holding hands or kissing, she is just your friend, and she will have to pay her own way and buy her own drinks when you go out. If you are paying 100% for the meals, drinks, tickets ect., all the time, you may think you are her friend because she is letting you be seen with her out in public, but she is not your friend!

Business relationships are just that, business, you do for me, because I do for you or vice versa, if there is no reciprocation, the business relationship stales and becomes no more. Mutual real friendships are ones that you do for me or vice versa and not expecting and many times, maybe due to circumstances, not receiving anything in return other than the friendship.
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You think that's real? If so, ya want to meet some time to discuss the purchase of some really cool beach front property in Arizona?

Stop paying them and see how solid that "friendship" becomes. LOL Please. Originally Posted by Muscleup
Hate to bust your bubble but I consider SNL my friend. We stay in touch, he doesn't pay me anymore because I'm retired. In my situation i don't need anything from him. I just like his personality and like hearing what he is up to. The last time I saw him I bought lunch. But he and one other man I met here are the exception to the rule.