This is so sad. It's pretty personal to me. I had two bad experiences as a child. First let me say I don't have a racist bone in my body but i fear flashbacks and I don't feel right to put a man in the position of getting excited to see me and me have some kind of melt down. Second, my other bad experience was with a tall red headed freckled man but they are so rare, I don't feel it necessary to include them in my ad. That said, I did have one tall red headed freckled man who I apologized to and told he looked too much like family. I can't say THAT to a black man. I am German and I look it. It does make me feel guilty to deny a whole race based on my one bad experience but these flashbacks still happen when I am by myself. I know it would happen. So why waste our time and feel awkward?
So, these things are what is sad to me in this thread:
1. Yes "you people" is offensive to any group of people but not always... for example "u people are nuts"
so it is context and the context in question here is obvious to me. And I don't think it is her! Tragedy would not emplore her to come back just to be mean!
2. It is sad that a whole race of people are still considered "less than" and as a woman who has experienced this from plenty of white men and black men; I hate it! When a white man tells me he sees me because I am NBA, I am insulted. See me because I turn u on, not am acceptable like we have racism in common, we don't. ... but I always kept my mouth shut til now. On then other hand, I also don't appreciate being LUMPED into a group of racist by black people. I have close black friends!
3. There are some black men who I find way more attractive than some white guys... example Shawn T. That fugger is hot but I couldn't go there FOR MY OWN REASONS.
So, being a girl who has suffered this tragedy... none of "U PEOPLE" are being fair to one another... and I mean everybody! Just stop... I heard my whole life about being a blonde and I feel like it is a dirty word. Just stop! And I am talking to both races. STOP IT! RESPECT! LACK OF RESPECT IS THE PROBLEM! Only hate people who piss u off on purpose!