No show 2X Katie Cumms

clubguy254's Avatar
I had an appointment with Katie Cumms a few weeks ago and she no-showed. I live a pretty good distance from her and so it was a long drive there and a long drive back with nothing to show for it. She texted me the next day and said it was a family emergency. I hated that I drove so far out and so far back with nothing to show for it but I understood. Family comes before hobby. Family should come before anything. So we made a new date for a few days later. Drove out again. Two hour dive. Once I got there and was in the parking lot I got messages from her that she was running late, that she needed more time. Waited and waited. She even asked me if I could run to the gas station and get her candy and gatorade. Which I did. Then she messaged me and told me that she had a migrane and couldn't do it tonight and that she was sorry. So I drive home again. She messaged me and said she'd make it up to me with a free session. I said okay and then I got the run around for a week and then she finally messaged me again and said that she couldn't do a free session but would see for me for her rate. At this point I said that I had never asked for a free session. I had, at one point during this situation, said that I thought that after all of this I should get something. Like maybe if I pay for a BNG I might get 30 minutes. Or pay 1/2 hour and get an hour. Something like that. Something. I said that if that was acceptable then message me back. If not then I can respect that and we can both walk away. She never messaged me back.
Her pictures look great and she seems like a nice girl but I'd be wary of her. I've had PM with at least one other guy thats gone through the same thing.
I drove way out of my way twice to meet her and she no showed me both times within 5 days.
If its a valid reason then its a valid reason. I had to cancel an appointment with a provider a couple of months ago because my dad had a last minute doctor's appointment and he needed me. He comes before hobby. I dont think she understood and she doesnt seem like that she wants to see me now but I had a 7:30 PM appointment and I sent her a message at 9:30 AM telling her what was up. I know thats sucky to cancel but I gave her as much notice as I could.
With Katie I drove two hours to meet her and then waited an hour and a half on her only to have to drive back home the first time. That was during the day.
Then the second time I drove out again, another two hours, this time for a night time appointment, waited two hours as she messaged me to wait for her, and then drove back home two hours.
I told her from the first time I messaged her how far apart that we were so she knew that I was wasting 7 hours each time she no showed me.
Again, family comes first and if both times were legit then I'm not mad at you.
But you should try to make that right in some capacity and I don't think that offering 15 more minutes of your time is a really exorbitant request. Or getting back to my messages.
Some of you - guys - might read this and say thats on you. I'd have never contacted her back after the first no show.
And some of you girls might think that I'm not being fair with her.
But although I'm relatively new to ECCIE I'm not a newbie to the hobby. I have used other sites for the last 15 years instead of ECCIE. In that time this is one of the more negative experiences that I've had. I was just going to just let it go and I probably should have but I saw an ad of hers again and I thought that if there is another guy out there like me that was thinking about seeing her that you might be better off re-thinking it.
pyramider's Avatar
You need to lose the butthurtness and just state the NCNS. You lose credibility when you appear butthurt. NCNSs suck, but they happen.
clubguy254's Avatar
I didn't think that I lacked credibility. That's how I felt about it.
TheEccie214's Avatar
I would have spent the time you took to write this post to find another girl to see.
Kick her to the curb.

You are being played and disrespected.

Find another one who will take your money and satisfy you. Never let this happen again !

and BTW: A free session will never happen. Oldest play in the book.
clubguy254's Avatar
I did find one and I saw her. It was great. I just thought if someone else had this happen to them that they weren't the only one. I won't post anything else along these lines in future. I didn't mean to inconvenience you.
Hey, she's not the girl for you, bud...plain and simple. Too bad, so sad....

Erase and move on. Sh*t happens, getting blown off on an appt in this industry can and will happen, as well. Ya just gotta have a short memory if you're a hobbiest, that's all....you get sacked, so what....?.....get up, dust yourself off and go back to the huddle to call another play.

So, in closing, if writing this and hitting SEND helped you feel a little better, so be it. Bottom line, there's plenty more starfish in the sea.
clubguy254's Avatar
Lesson learned. Won't do this again. Either thing. Just thought that if I wanted to see someone and knew this in advance that it might be helpful. Understood.
She did the exact same thing to me. 2x no show after long drives. One time she claimed she was there and ready. After 20 minutes sitting in her semisketchy appt complex trying to get an appt # she says the cut her hand and had to go to the emergency room.

A week earlier similar incident with another provider. When I saw her a couple days later and asked about her emergency visit, I had to remind her about it. I remember trips to the ER from decades ago. Trickin must,be dangerous if they go so often it's forgotten in 48 hours.
clubguy254's Avatar
Thanks. I've gotten a couple of PMs from a couple of other guys with similar experiences. I don't and didn't mean to be a bitch about it. I was just trying to keep other guys from wasting their time. I should have, in hindsight, just made the post two sentences long but live and learn.
You are not wrong at all by posting this. What happened was rude, inconsiderate, and disrespectful. Your time is just as valuable as a provider's. If any particular provider can't respect that, she has no business providing. It's called TCB. No one is perfect, and life definitely happens, but in this case, it would seem you are just being fucked with. Not cool at all. Ever. Best of luck in the future.

Xoxo
SP
clubguy254's Avatar
thank you. I should have just seen you in the first place. It has been said that you have amazing oral skills. :-)
thank you. I should have just seen you in the first place. It has been said that you have amazing oral skills. :-) Originally Posted by clubguy254
Well you do need to come see for yourself...
(I am pretty damn good at it.) Lol.
mrredcat43's Avatar
Well you do need to come see for yourself...
(I am pretty damn good at it.) Lol. Originally Posted by Sinful Pleasure
+1000
milfy2002's Avatar

I see no reason to discourage the OP from posting NCNS reviews.

He relayed his story and although it was lengthy it seems that the info was for the most part pertinent.

Don't you guys wanna know who is going to waste your valuable time?

Please keep posting factual NCNS reviews. It helps everyone in the long run.