New to all this

I'm a single dad and haven't been on a date in years, and I'm About to explode. I think I need to start enjoying myself every now and then. My worries are mostly about catching something or getting busted. How do you pick a safe outlet where you can not only be somewhat anonymous but also sure your not going to bring hep c back to your kids?

Sorry everyone I know i sound like an idiot and tend to worry a lot but I need to feel like a man again.

As far as anonymity goes, I'll let the guys and gals who use P411 discuss the virtues (if they exist) of that platform. I never used it; I was always able to find someone I was happy to see who didn't require it.

I never worried about getting busted. I almost never saw someone who did not have a review posted somewhere or had had an ad running with the same email or phone number for a long enough time that I figured she was legit.


I probably never gave STDs the consideration they deserved, except back in the days of the late '90s AIDS scare. For the most part, the women would provide that consideration. Whether or not she insists on a condom, if you are concerned about STDs, you should. Bring your ow, just in case.
TL;DR: Research and condoms.

Thanks man

There are many things to consider but some of these listed below are essential.

• Only see well verified providers. Ones who have plenty of reviews with positive ratings.
• Never ever pay a deposit, 90% chance you will be scammed.
• If you find someone you are interested in from a review, don't hesitate to PM the reviewer and ask them for more specific info. Most will reply honestly if your questions are not too ridiculous.
• P411 is good but you don't need it. Besides, there are several bad apples on P411.
• Many providers have X(twitter), follow them. A lot of the providers follow each other.
• If you make an appointment and it feels off or something seems wrong at anytime, communication style of the provider, location, don't listen to the little head and ditch. Listen to your gut.

Research and condoms.

P411 is like hitting the easy button, but it costs and you will have to fork over personal information unless you can get a few ladies who are members there to vouch for you.

And there is the rub: if you are truly a newbie you won’t have references and given the state of the hobby today I suspect most of the women who you can verify through research are safe to see are likely going to screen you thoroughly before they agree to an appointment. That means references (which you don’t have), p411 (already discussed) or forking over some personal information that they can use to make sure you aren’t one of the dangerous fellows (or LE) that unfortunately also frequents these boards.

We all had to take our chances, though, when we started out. If you pick the right ladies you can minimize the risk of sharing too much with the wrong person.

Best of luck.

Stay with well knowen providers be willing to give screening info

Screening will be up to the provider what she will ask for if you can't provide or don't want to do screening she want's then don't even try to book.

See providers who screen this is the best way to be safe as far as not getting busted as We Care About YOUR saftey just as much as OURS.

And some provider might ask for deposit ( not all of us are a scam) if you can't give a deposit then move on to the next providers who don't ask for one .

Do your home work on the provider you want to see.

See if she has a website or p411- look at her Twitte X / Google her number-email , see if she been around for a long time ..

Stay off LC STG lot of scamers on them.
TRTYS -TER/ Oh2 all good
Check reviews out

I see nebies but I do ask for a lot of info if you don't have refes
And I take deposits ( never scamed someone over a few $)

We take just a big as risk as you are.

Good luck!