Once you are there, comfortable, and engaged a simple asking if something is allowed might be the perfect time. NEVER ASK BEFORE YOU ARE ALREADY ENGAGED AS THAT THROWS UP WAY TOO MANY RED FLAGS!!!
Originally Posted by noleftturn
I disagree. After you have arrived, get comfortable, and are engaged, its a crappy time to find out your favorite activity is off limits. I agree that its improper to ask for specific activities before hand. Some girls list activities on their websites (which is nice...but I can see why some wouldn't want to do that). Otherwise, the best a guy can do is to read what activities are listed in reviews. Of course then you have the YMMV scenario, but its better than going in blind and hoping.
For example, I love DATY and am greatly disappointed when the provider doesn't allow. If I would have known beforehand, I would never have made the appointment. I have taken a pass on several beautiful quality providers in the past because they didn't allow DATY. Of course it's their right to determine what activities they are comfortable with, just as its my right to choose providers with whom I will see. Its not personal, we just won't click. Better to find that out before the dissapoinmtent sets in.