I like it when the lady takes control or tells me what she wants rather than waiting for me to guess or intuit her likes. Just say it already!
Originally Posted by oldmarine
I normally hesitate to give advice to oldmarines, but here goes--
If you're having problems in this area, i.e. women "waiting for you to guess," it may be due to one or a combination of two factors.
(1) You are an oldmarine and are making appointments with young women. This could have two results (a) you are about to have sex with a young woman who actually doesn't "want" to have intimate relations with you at all -- you're NOT her type. So her lack of initiative is exactly that. And/or (b) she's okay about getting naked with you but expects you to lead simply because you're the "adult" in the group.
(2) The other factor is, whether she's youthful or mature,
you are her customer. She's there to cater to your desires, and no doubt expects you to have
something in mind, else you wouldn't be there. To find oneself in this situation is a very good thing.
May I suggest that the way to overcome the obstacle of Factor (1) and maximize the potential of Factor (2) is to do precisely what you are wanting the lady to do: Just say it. Tell her what you want.
In case you are more adept at barking orders to subordinates than you are at instructing sexual service professionals, try something like this:
"My dear, the theme for this evening (afternoon, whatever)
is that I am a man who is eminently capable of providing sexual satisfaction to a hot, attractive woman such as yourself. I'm going to step into the bath and wash up a little. Why don't you give some thought to what manner of carnal interactions would be most suitable for you to provide me with that experience, or a convincing representation thereof. When I return please begin begging for it."
It's a perfectly reasonable agenda for a hobbyist to have.