What Do Providers Look For In A Hobbyist?

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We all know you are looking for our money. After all, it is a business.

But, Ladies, what else do you look for? What makes you want to see a Guy again?
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  • bbkid
  • 04-19-2013, 07:11 AM
I always wonder when she is yelling "gimme more, gimme more" if she talking about my little pee-pee or money. Damn, I wish they would just come out and say what they want.
We all know you are looking for our money. After all, it is a business.

But, Ladies, what else do you look for? What makes you want to see a Guy again? Originally Posted by Oralist
To me, a great client is one who contacts me for a date a couple days in advance, or same day or a week ahead, but basically he schedules a time and then leaves me alone, understanding I have a life outside of my secret fantasy.

First meetings are not always easy at knowing exactly what a client wants, and discussing the details makes me hesitant as to your affiliation with Lewis Edwards and other government related agencies. With this in mind, I tend to lean towards clients who are members of websites that allow you to share information about yourself. It is helpful to providers knowing what you are into, at the same time it is a hard thing for us to approach.

Perks go to the clients who make us feel special. Clients stand out to me when they bring me something, even when small in size. A five dollar this or that still shows me that you thought about me prior to walking in the door.

Men that take their time will get more of me than those that jump my bones within 60 seconds of saying hello. As a romantic, I can turn into many things once my door has been slowly opened, but I personally tend to lean towards slow beginnings.

When it comes to the money, discussing it is the biggest turn off and turn away that any man can do. Personally, talking about it makes the experience empty and nothing more than a dollar value. I don't view time together as thank you's for your dollar. I view time together as experiences, and after we have met, I want to see the clients that I view as an overall gentleman, respecting boundaries and....... with that, the rest falls into place.
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  • zme
  • 04-19-2013, 08:21 AM
Pleasant: nice to see that you like to see someone plan things ahead, I can't tell you how many times I have contacted a woman a few days ahead of time to have them say "Oh that is too far away, contact me closer to the time". One even asked to be contacted same day only. I find that annoying as I usually need to plan ahead. As it turns out even hobbyists have real lives outside the hobby and some require advance planning.
Just letting you know that sometimes people become what they are trained to do and now I am not sure whether a girl is going to get annoyed if I call her well in advance or not.
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LOL! Money one time, Money two time, Money three time ... Don't flatter yourself, Bro. Unless you are a complete asshole ... Money next time.
Well said, PleasantSurprise. Gents who mentioned money only - that may be the case for most, but it is at the very bottom of the list for me. I'm sure everyone is really curious what I'm looking for in a client.

Number one - must be able / willing to have an intelligent conversation. This is how I find out if we have anything in common; commonalities point to compatibility. It means the difference between WFFF vs NMTF. I will always prefer WFFF clients. If you can make me laugh, you're golden. My favorite bedroom antics have always been with men who were able to make me legitimately lol. It really doesn't matter what you look like or what your build is, so long as you have a great personality. If you're able to talk geeky with me, that is platinum. Knowing who David Tennant, Matt Smith, or Joss Whedon are and why they might be important will actually make my panties catch on fire.

Number two - age is a factor. I prefer my age (33) - twenty years older (53). I will see people outside of that range given other factors, I'm simply most attracted to that age range. Younger, and I feel creepy; much older, and I feel icky. Although that depends on the older man - how he keeps in shape, how vibrant and youthful his spirit is. This age range, in general, is filled with men who I share common interests and experiences with, which goes back to number one.
To put this rationale into perspective: my ATF client is twenty years older, great personality, attractive, very talented BCD; my ATF human being is my age, and I swear my brain was split in half at some point, and half was put in their skull. Every time I see them, conversation is on point, and the laughter is in mass quantities. I attribute this to growing up at the same time, leading to massive similarities.
My sexual attraction sweet spot seems to be for men in their forties. I don't know why; it was that way when I was twenty, and it's that way now. Watch, when I'm fifty, I'll be going Mama Cougar on every 40-something in the surrounding area.

Number three - how they treat me. This begins from first contact... Do they provide me with all requested info without argument, complaint, or falsehood? Do they take the time to introduce themselves, respecting my time and schedule, or do they send their request in a short burst of text-ese with no regard for my desire to not hobby past pumpkin time? (Example: "R u available?" - sent past midnight, no name or identifying info; not that it matters, messages like that go straight in the trash bin. ) Are they understanding of the fact that I have a life and career outside of this, and may not be able to answer right away? Are they willing to schedule in advance rather than expecting a last minute appointment?
I read profiles, and choose those with a clear preference for DFK. I love to kiss; it's the number one thing I'm missing IRL, and the number one reason I'm here. If a client doesn't greet me with a kiss, I suspect I'm going to have a shitty time; if their kisses never go past teeth, I KNOW I'm going to have a shitty time. I can count the number of times that's happened on one hand with fingers left over, but the fact I'm using any fingers at all makes me want to use one in particular. I don't care how much money gets tossed down on the counter - if you can't give me a BFE, do us both a favor and GTFO. I'm not here for the cash, I'm here for the sheet-soaking thrill of illicit lust... If you can't surrender to the moment with me and kiss me with passion, those sheets are not going to get soaked, and that makes me a sad panda.

Number four - attraction / attractiveness. This is ruled by number one. Physical attraction - I like a man who takes care of himself - not necessarily to the point where they're sporting a six pack, but cleanliness inside and out are wonderful traits. I abhor smoking; I'm allergic to it, and the stench and taste it leaves behind is repulsive. Imagine if I ate corpses and rolled around in dog shit right before you came over. It's no fun.
Facial hair - I LOVE it. Something about a well trimmed beard or goatee just makes me want to rub my tits all over it. Stand alone mustaches, however, remind me of gay pornstars or my grandfather - neither of which I find sexy. I would rather you be clean-shaven than mustachioed.
I like chest hair, and will snicker in my head if it looks like you shaved your body for any reason other than competitive swimming. Back hair is no one's favorite. Pubes are much nicer trimmed.
Brushed teeth are awesome, but making use of my mouthwash is better than nothing - especially if you just had onions for lunch. Or skoal, or boiled ass.
Hair - curly, straight, long, short, bald... I don't care. Keep it clean and un-dyed. Silver foxes make me wet.

I'm sure there are other factors, of course, but that's what hits my mind at the moment.
TL;DR - conversation, cleanliness, respect, age are all more important than money to me.
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Yes, This is a business, butt that being said Not all money is good money. A client that is respectful and clean goes a long way in my book. My biggest turn off is someone that thinks because they have money they can be rude and disrespectful. We are all here to make your fantasy cum true, it is our job and one most of us enjoy and excel out. As we are all after a happy wet ending, help us help you by being a gentlemen as you would conducting any other business transaction. Now that being said......Slurp!!
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To me, a great client is one who contacts me for a date a couple days in advance, or same day or a week ahead, but basically he schedules a time and then leaves me alone, understanding I have a life outside of my secret fantasy. Scheduling that far in advance is great as long as the provider doesn't forget about it. (Obviously this has happened to me several times)

First meetings are not always easy at knowing exactly what a client wants, and discussing the details makes me hesitant as to your affiliation with Lewis Edwards and other government related agencies. With this in mind, I tend to lean towards clients who are members of websites that allow you to share information about yourself. It is helpful to providers knowing what you are into, at the same time it is a hard thing for us to approach. Couldn't this be taken care of within the first 5 minutes?

Perks go to the clients who make us feel special. Clients stand out to me when they bring me something, even when small in size. A five dollar this or that still shows me that you thought about me prior to walking in the door. Like what for example. A $5 box of chocolates? We don't want to hurt your diet or anything. 2-5 boxes (assuming a "low volume" provider) of chocolate per day would put you on the path to being Veruca Salt!

Men that take their time will get more of me than those that jump my bones within 60 seconds of saying hello. As a romantic, I can turn into many things once my door has been slowly opened, but I personally tend to lean towards slow beginnings. Are time extensions granted to clients for the "slow roll?"

When it comes to the money, discussing it is the biggest turn off and turn away that any man can do. Personally, talking about it makes the experience empty and nothing more than a dollar value. This I like. It eliminates the opportunity for the dreaded upsell. Know what you are paying before you go in and leave it on the table when you leave. I don't view time together as thank you's for your dollar. I view time together as experiences, and after we have met, I want to see the clients that I view as an overall gentleman, respecting boundaries and....... paying the agreed upon donation with that, the rest falls into place. Originally Posted by PleasantSurprise
Just Askin'
We all know you are looking for our money. After all, it is a business.

But, Ladies, what else do you look for? What makes you want to see a Guy again? Originally Posted by Oralist
Toned down ego.
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Thanks, Ladies, for your answers.
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David Tennant, Matt Smith: Patrick Troughton was better...

Joss Whedon: Fuck Buffy...Browncoats rule...
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LOL! Money one time, Money two time, Money three time ... Don't flatter yourself, Bro. Unless you are a complete asshole ... Money next time. Originally Posted by StinkyFingers
lol
Firefly reference? I can't believe this, but Wu just brought a smile to my face.