Terminology - by the Honest Courtesan

I know there are a million terms/acronyms for the hobby, but thought this pretty much outlines the most basic. Maggie does a good job explaining what most people are still trying to figure out. There was a time that CIM and Kissing were not something that escorts/providers did at all. But Maggie explains the changes as they happened over the course of the years and why.

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http://maggiemcneill.wordpress.com/2...e-terminology/

Is there a question to this thread or did I miss it?

Is there a question to this thread or did I miss it? Originally Posted by shorty

Nope just putting out what I thought was a well written article for those who are not as hobby experienced.

Thanks so much for posting this!

For a lot of providers who are younger, starting with cbj and other safer activities is very common. I was 26 when I started providing and to be honest, had never heard of giving a bj with a condom before then. It was just natural for me to do it without one, but I knew bbfs was off limits.

Does YMMV does it mean wht the other web site says. Your Mileage May Vary, or does it mean Your Mouth MY V_____? What does it mean on P411?

Does YMMV does it mean wht the other web site says. Your Mileage May Vary, or does it mean Your Mouth MY V_____? What does it mean on P411? Originally Posted by buzzworm86

DATY? Wild guess.

She seems to hold posters in contempt and hails lurkers. Is that you girls general opinion?

I know what DATY means, that was never a question. I've seen two meanings for YMMV and still don't know. Help a guy out and no reason to be mean. I'm no lurker, more likely an unsightly fixture.

She seems to hold posters in contempt and hails lurkers. Is that you girls general opinion? Originally Posted by FlectiNonFrangi

Here is the deal, most lurkers, those who read the boards but don't actually register and post a million reviews tend to be more discreet, and generally much more respectful.

Whereas you might get some guy who posts a million reviews and thinks he is "god" on an escort review board, who thinks he carries some kind of clout and persuasion with the other hobbyists, can treat a lady differently and use his "infamous board persona" to try and scare a lady into doing something she isn't comfortable with, or get freebies, or haggle, or blackmail or things of that nature. Wow, that was one long sentence! lol

I am not saying that all hobbyists do this but by design the system has been abused. You just don't have that problem with a lurker at all. If a lady chooses to do an activity with a lurker, something she normally wouldn't do at all with most, where she wants it to remain private and discreet, a lurker is not going to rush home to post a review that he got that activity. A lurker isn't going to say "I can write an awesome review of you if you do X,Y,Z for me, and make you lots of money if you give me a discount". Reviews are often times held over a ladies head.

So I think that is where Maggie McNeil is coming from.

Honestly I have never met any active poster from ECCIE most of the gents I meet from this site are lurkers or only give input on local threads. I think her view on active posters is as frat mentality, guys who gang up on girls or share tips in how to deceive people. As long as a guy is a gentleman to me in correspondence and in person I really don't give a shit what his typing on his own time.

I know what DATY means, that was never a question. I've seen two meanings for YMMV and still don't know. Help a guy out and no reason to be mean. I'm no lurker, more likely an unsightly fixture. Originally Posted by buzzworm86

It means that a lady may feel more comfortable doing certain activities with one guy than she would with another. It all boils down to personalities, and other factors like a guys attitude, his hygiene, etc.