What are y'all's thoughts on best ways to get "screened" as a newbie? I am a long time stalker of this site. I come on here maybe once a month or so and for the most part I end up just browsing the forums and fantasizing about participating in the hobby, but then I just end up going to a strip club, or "playing solitaire"... lol.
I'm sure I'm not the only guy on here who does the same. I'm in my late 20s, make about 140k so it's not like I can't afford it... I just don't know how to get started. Years ago I considered p411 (which is no longer an option), and I do have enough money to be able to afford it, but I know I would never see enough providers to justify the cost of using p411. To me it would be like buying a $400 PS4 just to play one game for 90 minutes and then throwing it away. Granted, if I found a provider I was really comfortable with, I would probably see them multiple times, but being a newbie, I can't say for sure that I would ever play with more than 5 "games" per year.
Anyway, my thinking is that if I don't have references and I can't use p411 because they're not accepting new accounts, I would be willing to provide some personal information to a provider that has reviews/references, but only if she's "the right girl". However, I rarely make any contact attempts because when I find the "right girl", her posts say "screening required, no exceptions".
Have any of y'all tried something like doing a pre-screen meeting with a provider? As in we meet just to verify that I'm not a cop/axe murder? I've always thought that would be a good idea, but I would be afraid the girl would turn around and say something like "you still owe me $XXX for my time" - even though no actual services are provided. Because I'm new, I feel like I'd somehow get taken advantage of.