SUGAR BABY Suicide Threats - LONG

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I started a SB/SD relationship in October 2013 with a girl who lived in my town. She was going to the local College in my town and got pregnant by her boyfriend who lived 1.5 hours away and dropped out of College, but remained in my town and I took care of her for the next 8 months. We grew close and I developed feelings for her and vice versa. During this I paid her rent, car payment etc.

During the 9th month she decided to move closer to home to be around family and got back with her Baby Daddy. We still communicated, but didn't see each other. She broke up with her Baby Daddy again and is now behind on her bills and is begging me to help her, but I really don't feel the need to help her...that's not the question.

She is two months behind on her car payment, lost her car insurance and other bills are mounting up and she is stressing out. Her family is just as borke as she is so they can't help financially. Since I won't help her with her bills she is threatening suicide if her car gets repo'd.

My question is: should I notify her mother through Facebook and let her know her daughter is threatening suicide or just mind my own Business? I do care for her but I'm not real sure she will commint suicide, but having lost 5-6 friends due to suicide I'm not sure if this is a cry for help or trying to extort/bluff money from me. Any suggestions?
mind ur own business... usually the ones who threaten it... are attention seekers. I mean.... look at the celebrities.. the ones who committed suicide. NO ONE knew it was coming.
The ones you lost, did they threaten before doing it?
Truly suicidal people dont tell people...

Id avoid this one... seems mental.
OTTER7001's Avatar
Thanks. Never saw the ones that did. I have told her about the friends I have lost and she knows I am ultra sensitive about this so I tend to agree she is seeking sympathy and money.
mind ur own business... usually the ones who threaten it... are attention seekers. I mean.... look at the celebrities.. the ones who committed suicide. NO ONE knew it was coming.
The ones you lost, did they threaten before doing it?
Truly suicidal people dont tell people...

Id avoid this one... seems mental. Originally Posted by Devon Derriere
I agree, and it appears more than likely she is attempting to just get what she wants. If it got to the point where it is a true concern, anonymously contact someone, urgently.

Suicide is crazy, and for real, but I wouldn't jump the gun too fast depending on the the tone and rawness. I had a SD who threatened suicide if I didn't stay his kept woman (it simply didn't work) .


Of course he got over it.
I don't have an suggestions or answers here but will point out the young lady could be suffering from post-partum depression which should be treated if that is the case.
Who the fuck commits suicide over a car being repoed
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In your own words(I'm risking this, just a guess) " a true sugar daddy don't ever frett this unless it threatens the real home front" otherwise your just a chump! If she is wiling on the threat, it's her choice, it's called freedom of choice, not freedom too extort!

If someone disagrees with that! Grow up! It's called survival of the fittest. Bam.
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What is her contact info?
Who the fuck commits suicide over a car being repoed Originally Posted by the cute papi
Exactly. The suicide threat in combo with the circumstances surrounding the pregnancy are warning flags that this bitch is flakier than a box of Post Toasties, and manipulative to boot. Run like hell.
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If someone disagrees with that! Grow up! It's called survival of the fittest. Bam. Originally Posted by thebuffmantraples
You are in trouble. Bam.
Fast Gunn's Avatar
Wow, sorry to hear how you got into this tangled mess, but ignoring her pleas entirely now may haunt you later on if she does go through with it.

Having your car reposed can be devastating to a young girl and she is evidently traumatized by the threat.

I would first examine my life to determine why there have been so many suicides in your circle of friends.

The poor girl needs emotional rescue, but from a professional, not you and probably not from her messed-up family either.

. . . Maybe you can call a crisis hot-line or some agency that deals with troubled girls and have a counselor speak to her.
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I started a SB/SD relationship in October 2013 with a girl who lived in my town. She was going to the local College in my town and got pregnant by her boyfriend who lived 1.5 hours away and dropped out of College, but remained in my town and I took care of her for the next 8 months. We grew close and I developed feelings for her and vice versa. During this I paid her rent, car payment etc.

During the 9th month she decided to move closer to home to be around family and got back with her Baby Daddy. We still communicated, but didn't see each other. She broke up with her Baby Daddy again and is now behind on her bills and is begging me to help her, but I really don't feel the need to help her...that's not the question.

She is two months behind on her car payment, lost her car insurance and other bills are mounting up and she is stressing out. Her family is just as borke as she is so they can't help financially. Since I won't help her with her bills she is threatening suicide if her car gets repo'd.

My question is: should I notify her mother through Facebook and let her know her daughter is threatening suicide or just mind my own Business? I do care for her but I'm not real sure she will commint suicide, but having lost 5-6 friends due to suicide I'm not sure if this is a cry for help or trying to extort/bluff money from me. Any suggestions? Originally Posted by OTTER7001
I don't know if agree with others saying that those who threaten, don't follow through. I know someone who threatened and did.

However, it appears she is clearly manipulating you, and using you. I agree with what others have said, who commits suicide over a car? Really? And she now has a child? I think she is playing you.

Yes, MYOB, and let her family help her mentally the best they can. THIS IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM, AND I DON'T KNOW WHY MEN CONTINUE TO TURN A BUSINESS RELATIONSHIP INTO THIS.

LISTEN VERY CLEARLY GUYS; HOOKERS, ESCORTS, WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CALL US MAKE MORE MONEY THAN YOU. IF LADIES ARE COMING TO YOU FOR FINANCIAL HELP, THERE IS SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN, UNLESS YOU LIKE DRAMA. IT COULD BE MIS-MANAGEMENT OF MONEY OR WHATEVER, BUT THERE IS NOT EXCUSE FOR THIS BEHAVIOR EVER IMO.

Your best best, is to change your number, email, etc. Cut off contact.

Sorry girls, I don't feel sorry for a working lady in this position. What other job is there, where you can wake up flat ass broke, and make your rent in one day???
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You are in trouble. Bam. Originally Posted by inspector farquar

...really that's all you have to contribute.. Uhmm, sad,

LISTEN VERY CLEARLY GUYS; HOOKERS, ESCORTS, WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CALL US MAKE MORE MONEY THAN YOU. IF LADIES ARE COMING TO YOU FOR FINANCIAL HELP, THERE IS SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN, UNLESS YOU LIKE DRAMA. IT COULD BE MIS-MANAGEMENT OF MONEY OR WHATEVER, BUT THERE IS NOT EXCUSE FOR THIS BEHAVIOR EVER IMO.

Your best best, is to change your number, email, etc. Cut off contact.

Sorry girls, I don't feel sorry for a working lady in this position. What other job is there, where you can wake up flat ass broke, and make your rent in one day??? Originally Posted by Holly Love
i agree. i never understand the ones who constantly need financial rescue.. either no common sense of managing money or they have "bad habits that need a fix".. i raised a child with no welfare or financial help other than a minimum wage job... so a hooker can for sure make it when they make $200 + an hour!!