How to get a provider to see me

How do I get a provider to see me? I have no references. I am "self employed" I am 25. Have years of rape trauma from when I was younger I am so desperate to start healing and I have never consesnaully been with anyone. I have the money though. I want to get this taken care of but no one that is legit and fit what I was looking for will see me. I just want this taken care of

How do I get a provider to see me? I have no references. I am "self employed" I am 25. Have years of rape trauma from when I was younger I am so desperate to start healing and I have never consesnaully been with anyone. I have the money though. I want to get this taken care of but no one that is legit and fit what I was looking for will see me. I just want this taken care of Originally Posted by 15p103

Hi 15p103,

Thanks so much for being so open and frank about your situation.

I'll give you my best, honest and sincere guidance and recommendation . . . but please understand that this is only MY opinion. As the saying goes, "If the shoe fits . . . wear it."

I'd try to look at this from the standpoint of having some fun while exploring what you like and what you don't like.

My first recommendation is that you might want to consider visiting some of the better and more recommended AMPs.

You simply get one of the AMP ladies to see you by you just walking in the door.

You don't need any references.

Just go in and try to have a pleasant time. Get a massage and then see what happens from there.

I have other ideas and recommendations if you would like to discuss this further.

Feel free to send me a PM if you have any questions or wish any specific recommendations.

Best wishes to you & Have Fun !!!

Why give references? Anyone who gives real world information is just asking for trouble.

Why give references? Anyone who gives real world information is just asking for trouble. Originally Posted by bigguyt

She had good reviews on the forum, seems most providers put in their ads that they request references from other providers or job info or something.

She had good reviews on the forum, seems most providers put in their ads that they request references from other providers or job info or something. Originally Posted by 15p103

You are giving a "criminal" your personal information. You may not have a moral problem seeing a provider but it is still a crime. Sometimes they are into more things you don't want to be a part of. If you are into asians go to sky or one spa. A nice weekend getaway to Canada is a good alternative

I agree with the amp idea. Just to get your feet wet, just head out to sky spa, hand the lady 220 and go with the flow. No o need to talk much or be awkward. Just let the masseuse tell you what to do. Lay back and enjoy

You may also want to look into working with a healer/ sex coach
I have not had any sessions with her, but have met her irl and can vouch that she is legit.
https://liquidlighttantra.com/work-with-me/

You are giving a "criminal" your personal information. You may not have a moral problem seeing a provider but it is still a crime. Sometimes they are into more things you don't want to be a part of. If you are into asians go to sky or one spa. A nice weekend getaway to Canada is a good alternative Originally Posted by bigguyt

Being that some of them live expensive lifestyles, you never know when they'll try to get you to pony up extra money.


You need a secret identity. Like a horny superhero.

That therapist sounds like a great idea in this situation. Great advice

I’m just going to be blunt. Banging a hooker frankly isn’t going to heal any of your trauma. Not one bit. I don’t know what other avenues (counseling, support groups) you have tried, but any possible healing will begin there. Just getting your dick wet from some damaged junkie on Mt. Oliver will provide you absolutely no long-term relief.
Good luck to you.

You are giving a "criminal" your personal information. You may not have a moral problem seeing a provider but it is still a crime. Sometimes they are into more things you don't want to be a part of. If you are into asians go to sky or one spa. A nice weekend getaway to Canada is a good alternative Originally Posted by bigguyt

Charlotte cole, A reviewed provider, asks me, a rape trauma victim that is self employed and has ptsd and only dedicates time to searching for escorts online, I am not really worried about the information I give. Besides what is the relevance here if she said no?

I’m just going to be blunt. Banging a hooker frankly isn’t going to heal any of your trauma. Not one bit. I don’t know what other avenues (counseling, support groups) you have tried, but any possible healing will begin there. Just getting your dick wet from some damaged junkie on Mt. Oliver will provide you absolutely no long-term relief.
Good luck to you. Originally Posted by himzert

I'm going to blunt, the fourth sentence where you say "I don't know what other avenues you have tried" Should have stopped you from commenting. Because you don't know what I've tried. You don't know I've done, you don't where I am in my healing stage. So those those thoughts not related to my question (my question was" how to get a provider to see me?") are kept solely between and my therapist. We know where I am in my healing stage. Your side thoughts are unwelcome and unneeded.

I don't feel like Himzert was showing malice in his remark. You put your story out there which is a brave thing to do. Not all responses are going to be positive and people will ask questions. Getting defensive about it isn't going to help.

As for my advice: I would start slow. Go to an amp and get the happy ending. See how it effects you. If you can tolerate and/or want more than I reccomend going to a Sky or a One Spa for more. The thing is that only you know what works for you. None of us can answer that question. Good luck with whichever route you choose.

I'm going to blunt, the fourth sentence where you say "I don't know what other avenues you have tried" Should have stopped you from commenting. Because you don't know what I've tried. You don't know I've done, you don't where I am in my healing stage. So those those thoughts not related to my question (my question was" how to get a provider to see me?") are kept solely between and my therapist. We know where I am in my healing stage. Your side thoughts are unwelcome and unneeded. Originally Posted by 15p103

I’m just giving you my advice. And to be even more blunt, I think there’s a real possibility this will make you feel even worse. It sure as shit has made me feel like shit often.

I don't feel like Himzert was showing malice in his remark. You put your story out there which is a brave thing to do. Not all responses are going to be positive and people will ask questions. Getting defensive about it isn't going to help. Originally Posted by paintedbynumbers

But he didn't ask questions. He gave unsolicited advice about me directly instead of what I asked. If he had asked something worth answering that's one thing. He only made statements about things he doesn't know based on his own experiences. We are different people, I know where I am in life and if it's considered getting defensive to shoot down someone's unwarranted life advice, than I'm sorry but I guess I am just a defensive person.

As for my advice: I would start slow. Go to an amp and get the happy ending. See how it effects you. If you can tolerate and/or want more than I reccomend going to a Sky or a One Spa for more. The thing is that only you know what works for you. None of us can answer that question. Good luck with whichever route you choose. Originally Posted by paintedbynumbers

I have already "started slow" and am now on the final stage where I am hoping to find something like a one on one intimate setting. Someone to show a little more TLC than an amp would. As for amps, the general nature of them worries me. They are often switched out, don't always speak english, my concern is that trafficking can be present and I am hesitant to walk into something that I feel could be a bad situation for her. Hence why I was looking for something that felt more comfortable.