Dealing With Emotions In The Hobby

So ladies, how do you handle the barrage of emotions that often flood you in the hobby?

Some ladies seem to turn into automatons during the session as a way to deal with their emotions, but that is such a turn-off.

The problem is that it becomes like having sex with a cold mannequin and who would want to pay for that, much less return?

On the other hand, providers certainly have to deal with their emotions somehow, so how do you do it that still leaves the man satisfied?

. . . No return customers is generally a slow death to any business.

ahhhhhh YMMV with any provider. So I find gals save the " like having sex with a cold mannequin" for the guys that they do not want to see again. Its easier ta make you just go away on your own over refusing you latter. Yet still take your cash. Hay some guys do not mind a cold fish fuck as long as she looks good.


I take it your getting a lot of cold fish, and not liking it?? aw, too bad.

Man up and look for Ms Next.

... ladies, how do you handle the barrage ...? Originally Posted by Fast Gunn

They refuse.

Haven't you learned that yet?

Fastgunn will never figure the hobby out . The more he tries the more he fails

If I am having an emotional day I take the day off so as not to ruin a clients day.

Find a secluded area.

Take all the beer bottles from my hippie grandparents house and smash them to smithereens.

Feels sooooo good lol.

Embrace them like logical, rational, sexual adult humans? I like feeling all gooey and bubbly after a session.. Unless he's made a mess all over me and I have to go clean off, I'll usually lay around and babble on a little. Pillow talk is awesome.

Such a huge gap exists with this subject between my perspective and what seems to be the "norm" ideals... Why is fondness, and even love frowned upon so sternly? Hasn't emotion always been a driving force in seeking a mistress? I enjoy my sessions best of all when I've grown to love the hell out of the man I'm seeing. Men confide in me things that are only safe to talk about with a disposable acquaintance, and it's only natural to love a good person... This is the whole beauty of this lifestyle for me, the fact that I can be so brutally, honestly me, and as dirty as I want to be for a few hours at a time, and if the person doesn't like me, I never have to see them again. (I still get off, and get paid mind you!) This entire hobby offers the chance to be vulnerable and open with your feelings and sexuality without commitment. Why wouldn't you want to fuck, ravage, and love a woman as hard as you can, and walk away, right back to your carefully crafted suburban life?

Seems the fear for men is their own insecurity with their ability to walk away when it's time to go. Same for ladies actually, it's like if they actually give a shit, they'll "become" their persona.. As if having a man inside you isn't intimate enough, they withhold kissing? Seems they are trying to maintain too large a disconnect between the "real" them, and the girl being a slut.

It's all just a mind melding brain fuck, the whole business of renting your body, but not your brain or heart.. Impossible to love yourself and deny your own human nature. A provider must accept what she's doing, allow herself to enjoy it, and embrace the hormones. Hell, most of us jump from man to man in our normal lives because we're addicted to the feeling of falling in love, and don't really love the guy... and once it fades, we're bored and looking again. Serial Monogamist... Only this way I get paid, get my love drugs, and don't deal with your sweaty sneakers or farting later! Perfect.

So says the sex sensei.

Embrace them like logical, rational, sexual adult humans? I like feeling all gooey and bubbly after a session.. Unless he's made a mess all over me and I have to go clean off, I'll usually lay around and babble on a little. Pillow talk is awesome.

Such a huge gap exists with this subject between my perspective and what seems to be the "norm" ideals... Why is fondness, and even love frowned upon so sternly? Hasn't emotion always been a driving force in seeking a mistress? I enjoy my sessions best of all when I've grown to love the hell out of the man I'm seeing. Men confide in me things that are only safe to talk about with a disposable acquaintance, and it's only natural to love a good person... This is the whole beauty of this lifestyle for me, the fact that I can be so brutally, honestly me, and as dirty as I want to be for a few hours at a time, and if the person doesn't like me, I never have to see them again. (I still get off, and get paid mind you!) This entire hobby offers the chance to be vulnerable and open with your feelings and sexuality without commitment. Why wouldn't you want to fuck, ravage, and love a woman as hard as you can, and walk away, right back to your carefully crafted suburban life?

Seems the fear for men is their own insecurity with their ability to walk away when it's time to go. Same for ladies actually, it's like if they actually give a shit, they'll "become" their persona.. As if having a man inside you isn't intimate enough, they withhold kissing? Seems they are trying to maintain too large a disconnect between the "real" them, and the girl being a slut.

It's all just a mind melding brain fuck, the whole business of renting your body, but not your brain or heart.. Impossible to love yourself and deny your own human nature. A provider must accept what she's doing, allow herself to enjoy it, and embrace the hormones. Hell, most of us jump from man to man in our normal lives because we're addicted to the feeling of falling in love, and don't really love the guy... and once it fades, we're bored and looking again. Serial Monogamist... Only this way I get paid, get my love drugs, and don't deal with your sweaty sneakers or farting later! Perfect.

So says the sex sensei. Originally Posted by Calista_Syn

Ok....this lady gets it.

The closest I've been to Biloxi is Gulfport. But If I ever get down there again......I'm looking you up!

Embrace them like logical, rational, sexual adult humans? I like feeling all gooey and bubbly after a session.. Only this way I get paid, get my love drugs, and don't deal with your sweaty sneakers or farting later! Perfect.

So says the sex sensei. Originally Posted by Calista_Syn

God, its so great to read how many women/providers here GET IT like that!!! That is almost exactly what my ATF provider has discussed with me and why I see her as often as I can.

Wow!

You have unloaded a veritable mountain of information on us!

I think that love is frown upon in the hobby because it is generally later found to be counterfeit, but many people have still been fooled and badly hurt.

. . . Providers are in the business to provide sexual please. There are not there to provide love. Surely, everybody knows that by now, don't they?

Embrace them like logical, rational, sexual adult humans? I like feeling all gooey and bubbly after a session.. Unless he's made a mess all over me and I have to go clean off, I'll usually lay around and babble on a little. Pillow talk is awesome.

Such a huge gap exists with this subject between my perspective and what seems to be the "norm" ideals... Why is fondness, and even love frowned upon so sternly? Hasn't emotion always been a driving force in seeking a mistress? I enjoy my sessions best of all when I've grown to love the hell out of the man I'm seeing. Men confide in me things that are only safe to talk about with a disposable acquaintance, and it's only natural to love a good person... This is the whole beauty of this lifestyle for me, the fact that I can be so brutally, honestly me, and as dirty as I want to be for a few hours at a time, and if the person doesn't like me, I never have to see them again. (I still get off, and get paid mind you!) This entire hobby offers the chance to be vulnerable and open with your feelings and sexuality without commitment. Why wouldn't you want to fuck, ravage, and love a woman as hard as you can, and walk away, right back to your carefully crafted suburban life?

Seems the fear for men is their own insecurity with their ability to walk away when it's time to go. Same for ladies actually, it's like if they actually give a shit, they'll "become" their persona.. As if having a man inside you isn't intimate enough, they withhold kissing? Seems they are trying to maintain too large a disconnect between the "real" them, and the girl being a slut.

It's all just a mind melding brain fuck, the whole business of renting your body, but not your brain or heart.. Impossible to love yourself and deny your own human nature. A provider must accept what she's doing, allow herself to enjoy it, and embrace the hormones. Hell, most of us jump from man to man in our normal lives because we're addicted to the feeling of falling in love, and don't really love the guy... and once it fades, we're bored and looking again. Serial Monogamist... Only this way I get paid, get my love drugs, and don't deal with your sweaty sneakers or farting later! Perfect.

So says the sex sensei. Originally Posted by Calista_Syn

Embrace them like logical, rational, sexual adult humans? I like feeling all gooey and bubbly after a session.. Unless he's made a mess all over me and I have to go clean off, I'll usually lay around and babble on a little. Pillow talk is awesome.

Such a huge gap exists with this subject between my perspective and what seems to be the "norm" ideals... Why is fondness, and even love frowned upon so sternly? Hasn't emotion always been a driving force in seeking a mistress? I enjoy my sessions best of all when I've grown to love the hell out of the man I'm seeing. Men confide in me things that are only safe to talk about with a disposable acquaintance, and it's only natural to love a good person... This is the whole beauty of this lifestyle for me, the fact that I can be so brutally, honestly me, and as dirty as I want to be for a few hours at a time, and if the person doesn't like me, I never have to see them again. (I still get off, and get paid mind you!) This entire hobby offers the chance to be vulnerable and open with your feelings and sexuality without commitment. Why wouldn't you want to fuck, ravage, and love a woman as hard as you can, and walk away, right back to your carefully crafted suburban life?

Seems the fear for men is their own insecurity with their ability to walk away when it's time to go. Same for ladies actually, it's like if they actually give a shit, they'll "become" their persona.. As if having a man inside you isn't intimate enough, they withhold kissing? Seems they are trying to maintain too large a disconnect between the "real" them, and the girl being a slut.

It's all just a mind melding brain fuck, the whole business of renting your body, but not your brain or heart.. Impossible to love yourself and deny your own human nature. A provider must accept what she's doing, allow herself to enjoy it, and embrace the hormones. Hell, most of us jump from man to man in our normal lives because we're addicted to the feeling of falling in love, and don't really love the guy... and once it fades, we're bored and looking again. Serial Monogamist... Only this way I get paid, get my love drugs, and don't deal with your sweaty sneakers or farting later! Perfect.

So says the sex sensei. Originally Posted by Calista_Syn

Never been to Biloxi - Now I have both NEED and DESIRE!
Thank you for a great post.
I'm there with you - give all I got while we are together. The emotions are part of the fun and exploration.

Interesting...

Too friggin funny Makoa... but very true

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=826583

Here is a test subject for you FG, sounds like she has it bad for a trick.

what does it mean for a man to keep paying to have sex with a woman who doesn’t give signs of enjoying it? .. I must be missing something

http://titsandsass.com/getting-away-...t-of-sex-work/

Such a huge gap exists with this subject between my perspective and what seems to be the "norm" ideals... Why is fondness, and even love frowned upon so sternly? Hasn't emotion always been a driving force in seeking a mistress? I enjoy my sessions best of all when I've grown to love the hell out of the man I'm seeing. Men confide in me things that are only safe to talk about with a disposable acquaintance, and it's only natural to love a good person.
So says the sex sensei. Originally Posted by Calista_Syn

Outstanding post M'Lady. It points out what so many on here (and in the bigger community of this business) don't care to understand, that not everyone is here for the same things! What you describe is exactly what I seek--and have been fortunate enough to find with a number of ladies. I know it is probably the minority opinion and I can accept that. I make no attempt to convince others who want a 100% physical 15 minute session that they should seek the same things--fondness, warmth, caring, sex, compassion, and occasionally by accident even love--that I do, but somehow the "majority" feel frequently obliged to tell everyone who will listen that that preference is somehow foolish. I smile, I occasionally chortle, but mostly I wonder how they can be so easily satisfied with so little.

. . . Providers are in the business to provide sexual please. There are not there to provide love. Surely, everybody knows that by now, don't they?

Originally Posted by Fast Gunn

There is a whole spectrum in between those two ends.