References

How are you supposed to get references if all the escorts require you to have them before seeing you? I am looking for a safe provider so I appreciate that they are taking these extra measures but I am not going to find some random ads on another site just to create references. How did most of you get started out and where did you find save and attractive providers that would see you without all the references.

Bshaw...do some searching on "newbie friendly" providers.

For a good newbie-friendly provider, (one you actually want as a reference) this means she will screen you via some alternate methods to ensure her safety and yours.

For some, it just means they don't screen. Avoid these, and the aforementioend safety is a crap shoot.

Once you have seen a respectable newbie-friendly gal, you should politely ask to use her as a reference in the future. If she's a pro, she will have no problem with this. (If she's not, she'll act like you pissed in her cereal bowl because you took your money to someone else. )

It's a catch 22, I was in the same boat when I started...as most guys are. You just have to keep searching for a provider that will see you even though you have no references. It's not easy, but it can be done.

Good luck,

TM

There can be a bit of luck involved, but research is key. Soon after joining eccie I also joined p411. If I saw someone on eccie I liked I would search for her on p411. Like a lot of guys, my first experiences came from backpage where it's a real crap shoot. So I looked to eccie and p411 for better consistency of providers. I would go on p411 and look for who was on line and then check if they were newbie friendly. That is how I hooked up with my first two providers from there and once I recieved their ok's , I had references and then it just grows. Now I have 24 ok's and the only thing that keeps from seeing who I want is if their menu does not match up with my preferences. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Do your homework or download porn.

P411 seems to be the gold standard, don't know how you feel about giving personal data

Thanks for the feedback I am really uncomfortable taking a 'crapshoot' as some of you have stated your first experience can be. I also don't want to just find any random provider because they are newbie friendly. I will keep 'researching' and hopefully get lucky to find someone I would like to see that is also willing to see someone new.

Try body rub gals. That's how I got started. Most have less stringent screening requirements and still provide good references.