With your clients. Say you got a client and you like him and regularly visit with him, do you ever just go get a movie with him or attend a birthday??
Originally Posted by projectbliss
Yes, but with clients that truly respect my business model. Usually I'm the one to initiate impromptu OTC time. But it should be all about reciprocation, and not how you can abuse a woman's time.
I cook/share Thanksgiving dinner with a wonderful client-friend of mine usually on the Saturday after since he has no family in town.
I fly to my ATF on my own dime treat him to dinner and a gift every year for his birthday. He also reciprocates the gesture.
After a dinner date with one of my clients, I invited him to go to the movies with me to see a movie we were both gushing about, my treat. Since then, our only time together has been Clock free days because we have so much in common.
I really wish you guys would understand that this is a business arrangement. But we are also human, and our feelings are intertwined in the business aspect of this. That would be screwed up of you to think that a lady is just in this for the money if she isn't willing to meet you off the clock.
If a lady has a dinner date rate on her site, and you ask her to eat after a one hour date off the clock, that is DISRESPECTFUL. Screw your promises for future dates. If IF was a FIFTH we'd all be drunk. That's like her agreeing to see you for an hour, but asking you to pay her for four, so you can get extra hours on future dates. If you don't pay upfront, why should we?
Let HER make the decision to take you out to eat, or that she has the time and energy to cultivate your friendship in the way she chooses. Don't come out of the gate expecting freebies. That shit is for the birds.
It's about mutual respect for all!