So do you
I love my job, very much, do I love it at all times? no. But loving my job do I hear pitiful situations where my heart breaks and I do the work for a discount or for free, I do. I do this because it is the right thing to do for that particular person and I love being of service to others. When is the last time a provider loved fucking so much she called me up and said she was bored and wanted to fuck for a discount? Never, people that love what they do, do it for the passion not just the money. In my expereicne with the women I have been exposed to, they do this job for "money and laziness." Nothing worng with that. To each their own, I do not judge at all.
Originally Posted by Outdoorsman
You were absolutely correct, we ARE business owners. So why don't companions practice same kind of occasional "on the house" kind of business practice as you (and many other business owners) do?
Reason #1 - we are in business of selling a WANT product, not a NEED product. Its a luxury, not necessity. If you are in business of selling food, then sure you may run into a family that does not have grocery money, kids go to bed hungry and you feel compelled to give them a free meal. If you are a doctor and patient walks in without any means to pay for your services, once again you may feel that its the right thing to do and treat them free. Examples are endless.
But if you make and sell custom made shoes starting at $400 per pair and someone walks in and says "I got 20 bucks and I could go and buy pair of boots in Payless Shoes, but I just HAVE to have this pair of red pumps", I can guarantee you the response even from most enthusiastic shoe maker will be too graphic to post on the board.
If you own 5 star restaurant and someone walks in with foodstamps and says "I could go and buy myself food, but I WANT to have dinner in your upscale establishment, could I have it for free since you just happen to love to cook", once again you will tell them to pound salt.
Reason #2
Brand devaluation. If my hairdresser called me and said "I love cutting hair so much, why don't you stop by today and I will give you $120 hair cut for free", what's to make me pay him next time i need my hair done? I will simply wait till he feels the need to cut hair and calls me again.
Reason #3
It blurs the lines. The envelope that you leave on her bedside table allows both of you to keep things in perspective no matter how well the two of you may be getting along. Take it away and we the providers turn into civvies with all the positives and negatives associated with regular dating.
That said, there are ways to offer free services without diluting one's brand. For example, if someone books an overnight with me on somewhat regular basis, I may offer to extend an overnight into 24h engagement without extra charge. If someone books dinner date (again on regular basis) I will offer to extend it to Clock Free, etc.
I just wonder at times if my actions are contributing to destructive thinking and self image to some ladies. Because if so, then I do not wish to be a part of it. A large number of ladies I have seen and no longer see are simply in denial about their self esteem. It is that simple.
Originally Posted by Outdoorsman
Unfortunately you probably do contribute to certain self destructive behaviors. If that truly weights on your conscience the best you can do is to "screen out" those ladies who seem to enter this profession without clear exit strategy.
Why do providers fall in love with no job, no money, abusive men? In my experience it is because they have low self esteem and do not feel they deserve a good man. Where does that low self esteem generate? In my experience from their job.
Originally Posted by Outdoorsman
Oy vey .. because we are human and we want love just as much as any other woman? UNFORTUNATELY more often than not it comes down to choice between being single for as long as you work as a companion or dating less than desirable man. Low self-esteem is least of my problems, but I am realistic enough to know that if i were to make match.com profile and list my occupation as "escort" I would get messages from very specific population segment.
Lina