if you take chevalier's post [in the thread ref'd below] at pixel value, he even thinks so.
Originally Posted by pmdelites
I may not have been clear.
I suggested "private" (rather than "public") in the sense of a lady telling her favorite clients face-to-face. First, because it wouldn't offend the other clients because they wouldn't even know she designated favorites -- not all ladies would. Second, because a lady could tell 30 different guys they were among her 5 favorite clients, and none of them would know that she was stretching the truth.
You're talking more about "anonymous" rather than "private" -- posting a list publicly but using a cut-out (you) to avoid our knowing whose list it is. [It also depends on the ladies trusting you, and unless they know you very, very well . . . why should they? Nothing personal; I'd say the same thing about them trusting me.] That avoids the problem of offending her other clients, as long as they can't tell who Lady A is. But what's the
upside to that list? It may make a guy who is listed feel good, but he doesn't know who specifically it was that felt that way about him. More importantly, what's the benefit to the lady of preparing such a list? The benefit to the lady under
my conception of "private" was the ego-stroke -- a lady tells me (privately) I'm one of her top 5, I feel good about that, and as a result I may be more inclined to see her again or more frequently. (Or maybe not.) But if you post a list by an
anonymous lady that includes my name . . . who will receive the benefit if I don't know who stroked my ego??? I might guess it was by someone entirely different, and the benefit might accrue to one of her competitors. So, why should she bother? Far better for her to privately tell those 5 guys (or 30
) that they're her favorites.
On top of which, I personally think "top 5 favorite client" lists are kind of silly. We should be secure enough about ourselves that we don't need that sort of affirmation. The vast, vast majority of the ladies I've seen -- including most of my regulars/favorites -- would not put me in their top 5. So what? A "top 5 favorite client" list fuels a competitive spirit about something that shouldn't be competition. A lady's preference for Joe, Frank, Ed, Phil, and Matt doesn't mean she won't show me a good time or won't value/appreciate me. It's nice to hear, and ladies are welcome to tell me if I am one of their favorites, but I don't worry about it if they don't.
If you want to pursue the project, I have no objection. Have at it. But I'm not endorsing it
per se either.
if the same four or five client's names pop up the rest of us guys could ask them what their MO is...we all could learn new things
Originally Posted by Prolongus
Doubtful - it's relatively meaningless, since most ladies see only a very small subset of all clients. Seeing someone's name pop up a lot may just mean that he sees more ladies than the average client.