Annoyed in NOVA

I am getting so annoyed with the phone calls from men contacting me and asking if I am available now. Are they for real? Do these men think that we just wake-up in the morning, take a shower, get dressed and sit by the phone and wait for it to ring. Worst of all, they ask me my rate which can easily be found by simply visiting my website. I don't care if you are drop dead gorgeous and have a six pack. I am not interested in visiting with you if you cannot take the time to visit my website to learn more about me and allow me enough time to prepare for our visit. Besides, how am I able to verify said gentlemen with such little time. I find that one who does not do their research on me and asks such questions as this is not only disrespectful but is a huge turn-off as well. Just like you, I want to enjoy my time with whom I am spending time with. I don't want to pretend that I am enjoying my time with you. Wouldn't you rather have that then someone faking it. For me, it's not all about your looks. I am turned on by a man who is respectful, and kind. One who carries himself well and appreciates spending time with a genuine lady and not one considered as "sleazy". Okay, I am done ranting.

If you are Sam Elliott or Kevin Costner, this statement does not apply to you.

Juliettte

Blame the tourists.

We've got a lot of businessmen and travelers with too "last minute" free time and they troll the internet for a quick fling. Granted, I'm guilty sometimes for asking last minute but I at least come with a long list of references and brownie points in this hobby.

There are hobbyists.

There are johns.

Hobbyists do their research and furnish easily verified credentials. Johns think that pussy is available on demand and a quick "are you available?" is all that it takes.

Thanks for your post and for your support. You are correct. I sometimes accept last minute appts. (within an hour) granted if I am available and I have spent time with the gentleman before or he is able to provide me with information to prove that he is safe to spend time with such as work information or a couple of ladies that I am able to contact for a reference. Most of the time, if I don't have a date anytime soon, I am either at the gym, shopping, getting something to eat or just hanging around returning phone calls, emails, and etc. For a man to think that he can just call me up like room service without knowing anything about him and allow him to just walk through my door is ludicrous. He could be a cop, a psycho, someone who doesn't have money, or a disrespectful jerk. I wish some of these men would realize this.

There are a few of us, including myself, who sometimes only have a small window of opportunity to hobby. Some of us dont have the luxury of prebooking. So when I have an open window I text for availabilty, and if available, I follow it with a p411 request. No disrespect intended.

Thanks for your honesty and your post. I understand your situation. I am talking about men who call without any information to prove that he is a safe individual to meet and spend time with. Or, he wants to come over "NOW". Not within 30 minutes to an hour from now. If you would like to visit with a nice lady on such short notice, contact her as others sometimes do with your P411 information and a nice email such as " Hi Juliette, my name is Mark. I know this is short notice, but I would like to spend some time with you within the next hour if possible". Here is my P411 information. If not, would you please go ahead and screen me for perhaps a future visit." (THIS SUGGESTION DOES NOT APPLY TO SOME LADIES) If a gentleman would write me in such a fashion, I would probably do my best to accommodate him. The following is what I sometimes get.

(Me)"hello" (man)"are you available"
(me)"For what time please" (man)"now"
(me)"Have you visited my site" (man)"No, what is your rate"
(me)"Do you have any reference" (man) "yeah, I saw Lori from backpage last week".

This is only an example.

Hi Juliette,

I know exactly what you're going through. Some guys just irk me the way the write to me. Why, just the other day, this person e-mails me randomly ...

"Wondering if you please allow me hh fs for 100?"

... That's it. No handles. No references. And he thinks that I'm negotiating by e-mail? Or that I'm desperate enough to consider his offer? Mind you, he proceeds to keep asking me to e-mail him when I decide to see him. I kindly directed him to Backpage.

Good for you Jenny. That just makes it bs for both providers and hobbyists.