IDEA 1:
A favoriting system so once you have screened a provider you can mark her as a favorite and add notes. Then allow me to easily search favorites in the search provider menu and display their picture with my notes ... ie
[Picture of Jeenie] Notes - good ratings missing a couple must haves. etc.
You might also allow the ladies to see who has Favorited them, but that might be too much as it could be construed as helping the solicitation which could put the site in danger. However favoriteing and note taking wouldn't. I do understand there is a note system but not attached to each profile, so that it is easily usable.
IDEA 2:
Create an acronym check list for both providers and providees as a member only feature and keep it non public or behind the scenes. Now I can come to a search screen as a member and search by clicking several radio buttons to get a short list (again here the same note section as above would be handy to see) and would take it off the acronyms definition thread to start with anyways. [keeping in behind the scenes and unpublished is my way of keeping it a search function rather than a potential solicitation]
Sub IDEA 2: lesser idea
allow a key word search on the search page that looks in a ladies profile and returns matches ... ie BBBJ returns every provider that has BBBJ in her profile. The down side here is, it would return the provider even if she said NO BBBJ! Which is what makes it a lesser option.
seen similar before but not exactly as stated here ... still a very good idea IMHO