+ * + DATING CLIENTS + * +

Hey Ladies and Gents:

Seems like it has been 7 months since I've posted in National Forum and I trust you all are doing well this evening while prepping for a busy week! This is a quick thread to gather your insights on this issue. Here goes:

I have been been pretty strict with my business practices in the one year I have been in the Texas hobby and have drawn the fine line between business and personal. After all, I treat my business as a part-time profession in addition to my non-hobby profession where professionalism and attention to every detail matters.

Well, over the months in the majestic city of San Antonio, I have noticed the same 2-3 clients have been booking me regularly at my downtown location which I have branded "Downtown Delight" In San Antonio, I usually stay in a downtown hotel suite/room and what is odd is that it seems like the clients who book me at my downtown location tend to book me weekly, not necessarily infatuation with me, but I sense that their pockets might be a bit deeper as they have a profession that pays them a bit more in a relatively blue collar city. In particular, two clients in the past week have offered to take me to dinner since there is a shared chemistry. With several of my clients, it is easy to form a friendship with so many of these gents who disclose their daily stress, fears, happiness and past-times.

I have always been attracted to older men (40s/50s) and have always had an affinity for Latino men (must be heritage thing I suppose), however, most recently I have been asked out on a "non BCD date" by much younger men, say early-thirties who are professionals and Latino - lol. Several providers charge an hourly rate for non-BCD dates, but I never have since it is hard to put a price on dinner when he is buying you dinner and drinks at the nicest restaurants. I must say, the thrilling aspect of this has been the fact that I am being pursued outside of the hobby and am not labeled as "escort" in their eyes. After being hurt emotionally in a recent relationship, dating these much younger men has been awesome for my self-esteem/self-confidence after a slight emotional "bruising" in that when I am with them, I feel beautiful that they want to be seen with me in public, introduce me to their friends and take me for a stroll on the Riverwalk or some nice area in San Antonio. They don't judge me for being an "escort" and embrace me for who I truly am outside of the hobby. I am a strong girl with or without a lover in my life, but if a man cares, he will want to spend time with you and show you his affection and vice-versa. The men I have been dating lead busy professional lives and as I do, so it is flattering that they have devoted time to getting to know me.

So, this past week in San Antonio, I went out on two dates with Latino thirty-somethings and it was so enjoyable. We have a lot in common, similar educational backgrounds, professional careers and of course great chemistry which developed over the course of weekly visits as provider/client. A few of these men know what I do professionally outside of the hobby and in turn I know their real identity since they had given me their business card and I have even sat in their office over coffee so I am not too concerned about a security breach.

Naturally, there is a fine line between dating my clients and BCD-sessions with the clients I date, so I suppose it is a mutual understanding that dating is hand-holding and a kiss on the cheek, but if they want the other stuff, they have to book me via e-mail. If it back-fires, I suppose I terminate one or the other, but so far it has been an exciting journey for me. I am not really looking for a relationship at this point in my life and want to have fun.

Question to you ladies, have you ever dated clients and what were your experiences? Men, have you ever dated providers? How did it go?

Just curious about other experiences as I am smiling in my reflection of my memorable times this past week

xo

Angelina

Its all in the mentality of the two people in my opinion. It takes two to make any relationship work. In answer to your question though the client has to have an open mind and the provider has to have it as well. Also both parties must establish boundaries and respect them. So in all in all it can work, but both people have to be able to handle everything that comes with it (good and bad).

BTW cant wait for my next visit! Always a blast with you!

Excellent points! It's a two-way street and open-mindedness is always a must in circumstances like these. I am still in my twenties and the clients I went out on dates with range from 30-35, so I get the impression they are wanting to have fun without committment which is ideal for me as well. I am at the age where I still want to play and enjoy life for a few more years. If I met the right person and was able to get to know them well and fell in love, I'd leave the hobby in heart-beat. The one advantage in dating clients is that there aren't too many secrets if you know what I mean.

Looking forward to seeing you again, too! Thanks for the excellent review.

Its all in the mentality of the two people in my opinion. It takes two to make any relationship work. In answer to your question though the client has to have an open mind and the provider has to have it as well. Also both parties must establish boundaries and respect them. So in all in all it can work, but both people have to be able to handle everything that comes with it (good and bad).

BTW cant wait for my next visit! Always a blast with you! Originally Posted by mojojo213

First off, it's always awesome to see more ladies posting in the co-ed national forums. I love it!

As far as you dating, I think it is great. If you are really enjoying it, then live it up girl! It is your life, and your business, and you should only listen to what you want. Not so much what other people think of it.

You may not be charging money for your 'date' time with your favorite men, but yet you are gaining so much from it. You are not doing it for nothing, and there are no charity cases here. I think it's a great balance.

Stay open minded, and keep your wits about you, and I think you will be wonderful.

Tiffany, thank you for the thoughtful message and I couldn't agree mor4e with your assessment. With dating, I am having a blast and it has been great for me.

xo

Angelina

First off, it's always awesome to see more ladies posting in the co-ed national forums. I love it!

As far as you dating, I think it is great. If you are really enjoying it, then live it up girl! It is your life, and your business, and you should only listen to what you want. Not so much what other people think of it.

You may not be charging money for your 'date' time with your favorite men, but yet you are gaining so much from it. You are not doing it for nothing, and there are no charity cases here. I think it's a great balance.

Stay open minded, and keep your wits about you, and I think you will be wonderful. Originally Posted by Tiffany Cums

I've not dated patrons, much less dated since I started into this world about a year ago... but more power to you!

I think that guys who have seen you first as a companion have shown that they value you (since they've generously paid for your time), are more openminded than guys who don't see companions, and that if you can take it beyond the formal arrangement of companionship that it could work out better than dating a non-hobbyist as an escort (you share the same secret world).

Best of luck :-)

Rachael:

Love your avatar! Very sexy. The fact that we both share the same secret world is what makes it so much better. I don't think I could date men who aren't in the hobby because I'd feel like I was living a double life. When I was an exotic dancer in San Antonio, Austin and Las Vegas, I met so many amazing men who were accomplished, world-travelled jet-setters and they understood that I was a smart business-woman with long-term goals of using my sexuality to further my future and expedite my dreams.

I have no expectations with the dating, so I think that is a pretty good place to be.

Thanks again,

Angelina

I've not dated patrons, much less dated since I started into this world about a year ago... but more power to you!

I think that guys who have seen you first as a companion have shown that they value you (since they've generously paid for your time), are more openminded than guys who don't see companions, and that if you can take it beyond the formal arrangement of companionship that it could work out better than dating a non-hobbyist as an escort (you share the same secret world).

Best of luck :-) Originally Posted by RachaelBenedict

i have dated a provider...but i just happened to know what she did for a living...we never met for a 'date'
for me i didnt take it to serious because i dont think i could be with one seriously.
as for the guys that think they can do it...im sure eventualy it will bother them and they will want you to stop.
if you are 'dating' someone...at what point do they get more than a kiss/hug at the end of the night and not pay?

Rachael:

Love your avatar! Very sexy. The fact that we both share the same secret world is what makes it so much better. I don't think I could date men who aren't in the hobby because I'd feel like I was living a double life. When I was an exotic dancer in San Antonio, Austin and Las Vegas, I met so many amazing men who were accomplished, world-travelled jet-setters and they understood that I was a smart business-woman with long-term goals of using my sexuality to further my future and expedite my dreams.

I have no expectations with the dating, so I think that is a pretty good place to be.

Thanks again,

Angelina Originally Posted by Angelina Adams

Sooooo . . . may I take you out to dinner, and some drinks after?

Sooooo . . . may I take you out to dinner, and some drinks after? Originally Posted by mojojo213

I'm cutting in front of the line mojo. I'm not sharing. AA you have broken way too many hearts.