I know this guy...let's call him "SecretD". SecretD has a session with a provider...things are going great in CFS. SecretD asks provider where he should "end". Provider says "right in there". SecretD, having been around the block once, or twice, decides to "get out" and end outside. Thankfully SecretD did, because precautions had failed. Provider starts to freak out because she's not on birth control and the only precaution would have failed if he stayed "right in there"...nearly oblivious that SecretD is also upset because he also didn't want anything like the provider had feared to happen either ($ * 5000, 18-21 years, energy, drama).
Afterwards, SecretD is driving down the road, thinking to himself about all the women he's met in the hobby who don't use birth control besides condoms. He thinks, "gee, I wish she told me that she's not on birth control before I finished". Some women are honest and up front, but not many...too many think that condom is their salvation. You can pretty much assume most men have "loaded guns", as the number of BC options for men are far less (and not temporary) than for women.
He gets a little angry, thinking why aren't all providers on some other of protection besides the condom...isn't that the morally correct thing to do...her choice, her responsibility? A more rational side then pipes in that some women medically can't be on them...or some of them are trying to have children with a SO. "I wish I knew who was on BC besides condoms...call it BCBC (Birth Control Besides Condoms)...pill, injection, ring, tubal ligation, born sterile...whatever...as long as there is another BC method in play besides condoms, that'd be reassuring". He'd also be willing to put down whether he is BCBC (vasectomy, sterile, or some other male contraception that is WAY overdue)...don't to be specific...just say BCBC...just like DDF. Make it a part of screening on P411, or some other verification service.
Sure, some providers may fib, and say that they are BCBC, when they aren't, just so their business isn't affected. You may even have a minute percentage of providers and clients start practicing more BBFS. At least more of the cards are on the table for a good decision to be reached.
Is SecretD on Jupiter with this idea?